By Rashim Nabanja
Traditionally, a bride usually asks her sister, cousin or closest friend to be her maid of honour/matron. Most recently, however, this concept has changed with some brides preferring to choose someone that they think will not outshine them.
The best thing to consider when choosing your maid of honour, however, is to find someone you can rely on entirely, from the beginning of the wedding preparations until the end of the ceremony.
Being chosen as a maid of honour comes with commitment and hard work. My Wedding brings you some of the things that a maid of honour can help with before and during the wedding ceremony.
Head of the bridesmaids
According to Jannet Nabakooza, a wedding planner working with Unicorn Party House, a bride usually has a lot on her plate to start dealing with the small drama that the bridesmaids may come with. Therefore, the best person that can help in such a situation is the maid of honour.
Nabakooza adds that a maid of honour is also responsible for taking care of the bridesmaid’s outfits, make sure they show up in time for fittings, keep them organised and also be the head planner of the bridal shower in case there is one being organised.
Giving the bride a hand during the planning process.
It’s no news that wedding planning can be hectic and tiresome, especially for a bride. She, therefore, needs someone that will help her during the planning process. Nabakooza says most brides have a hard time making final decisions when it comes to aspects like décor, venue, outfits or finding the perfect service providers. This is where the maid of honour needs to come in and help the bride decide to on what to go with.
Stand by the bride during emotional breakdowns
A bride losing herself is always part of the planning process. It is usually as a result of some things not going according to plan, for example, a service provider bailing out at the last minute, the wedding budget running low or finding a fault with the wedding gown. Any of these can make a bride slip into anxiety.
A maid of honour may decide to sit down with the bride, advise and comfort her on some issues and also be available whenever the bride needs a shoulder to lean on.
Handle the bride’s needs on the D-day
On the actual day of the wedding, the maid of honour is probably going to be the closest person the bride can turn to in case she needs anything. She could be feeling sweaty and needing a handkerchief, she might want access to her phone or might have a problem with the gown.
According to Shamim Nakyeyune, once a maid of honour, it is your duty to make sure the bride gets access to whatever she needs while at the high table and also that she looks her best.
Coordinate the service providers and keep things on schedule
Nakyeyune also says handling the service providers doesn’t end when the wedding is being planned. Even on the actual day, they still need supervision and coordination, “Most times people hire wedding planners to make sure that everything is going as planned but just to keep the bride calm, the maid of honour needs to keep an eye on them and make sure they are doing things right.”
This will make the bride feel more relaxed knowing that someone they know and trust is taking care of things.
Curtain raiser for the couple with the best man.
Everyone awaits to lay their eyes on the couple when it comes to the reception. As the wedding party members enter the reception, the maid of honour usually enters with the best man just before the bride and groom. It is, therefore, your role to get the guests in the mood so that when the couple finally walks in, the crowd is already hyped up. The level of energy that you show the guests determines how fun the rest of the ceremony will be.
Maids of honour play a lot of roles but just not to put so much weight on their shoulders, some errands can be allocated to some of the bridesmaids to make the ceremony is enjoyable for them too.