By Maria Immaculate Owechi
Most soon to be wed couples prefer shopping for their outfits separately so that they surprise their partners on the big day. A common myth also says that it is bad luck for a groom to see his bride in her dress before the wedding. The challenge though is that one partner may step out looking so smart compared to the other.
To avoid such incidences, Patrick Segawa, the team leader Public Health Ambassadors Uganda and Patience Kyebitondo, an advocate of Sexual Reproductive Health for women say that they participated in each other’s shopping to ensure they were both smart for their big day.
Kyebitondo says she did not trust the quality of the place her husband was planning to purchase his suit from, so she suggested another shop.
“I specifically chose for him a navy blue suit because I knew it would look good for his skin tone,” Kyebitondo explains.
The bride then chose a maroon bowtie and suspenders for him so that they matched with the colour of her changing dress.
When it came to Kyebitondo’s shopping, Segawa helped with choosing everything but the dress although he says he would have loved to be there too.
“Since she wasn’t comfortable with it, I only escorted her to select her shoes and accessories,” he reveals.
The groom says he is glad his wife selected his suit because all the guests complimented his look.
Last year in November, a video of Segawa circulated on social media as he proposed to his then-girlfriend Kyebitondo in a flash mob at the International Conference on Family Planning (ICFP) in Rwanda.
In May this year, they had a lovely traditional wedding at the bride’s home in Masindi. They finally tied the knot at Downtown Watoto Church on Kampala road on 12th last month and thereafter hosted their guests at Ivy’s Hotel in Walikaga.
The couple shared details about their ceremony with us.
How much did the entire event cost you?
Segawa: It was about Shs30 million.
You had a lovely pre-wedding photo-shoot, when and how did you come up with the concept?
Segawa: It took place in August two months before the ceremony. We wanted something unique and that is why we decided to create a love story of a village herdsman with the love of his life.
Kyebitondo: We travelled to my home in Masindi to utilise the village setting and my cows for the shoot.
The photo-shoot was done by Mozart pictures who gave us a full package of taking our photos right from the introduction ceremony to the wedding at Shs4m.
How did you raise the funds for your wedding?
Segawa: We had our own savings and the rest came from the contributions from wedding meetings that started two months before the function. We would skip a week after each meeting.
Kyebitondo: Where I come from, we do not believe in having so many meetings, so I only had one meeting with my family and relatives. We prepared a nice dinner and then they came to participate in a fundraising drive for the ceremony.
Then from August to October, we had one joint meeting with my husband, four separately with his family members only and another four separately with our friends, cell members, and workmates.
How many people did you invite?
Segawa: We had invited 150 people but 200 came which luckily we could accommodate.
What was the most expensive item on the budget?
Segawa: It was the venue that cost us Shs10m for the whole package like the hall, chairs, tables, food, drinks, parking and a night at the hotel.
What was your wedding eve like?
Segawa: In the evening, I went to Sparkles Saloon for a haircut with my best man. Afterwards, we passed by the reception venue to crosscheck if everything was in place.
Then, we headed to Royal Victoria Hotel in Lubowa where we spent the night with the rest of my entourage.
Kyebitondo: That evening I was in saloon plaiting my hair at Prisca Makeup & Hairdo. Thereafter, I joined my entourage for a night at Kampala Boulevard Suits on Kampala road.
Why did you prefer spending the night in hotels rather than at your homes?
Kyebitondo: The suite was a short distance away from our church, so we knew we would be able to keep time.
Segawa: The night at the hotel was an offer from my parents’ friend so I wanted to honour it.
Which people did you have on your entourage?
Segawa: I chose my cousin, Ronnie Namutula, to be my best man because we have always been good friends and he was already married.
I had one groomsman and two grooms’ women who I had to include because we have been best friends since our university days. The ladies also added a unique aspect to my entourage.
The three-page boys who included a pair of twins were my nephews.
Kyebitondo: My longtime friend, Rose Babirye was my matron accompanied by three bridesmaids.
I decided not to have a flower girl because I did not want the hustle of trying to ensure a child is orderly.
You had very beautiful decoration, how much did it cost?
Segawa: It was at Shs4.5 m by Rosy Events Limited.
How big was your cake and how much did it cost?
Segawa: We had a cake of five tiers and 10 giveaways made by Venture Well Cakes at Shs2.5 m.
Tell us about your outfits
Segawa: My three-piece suit bought from a shop called Baggi suits cost me Shs1.5m. The rest of my entourage shopped for their own black suits with black bow ties.
For the changing outfits, I just took off the coat to display my maroon suspenders while my entourage went for blue suspenders so that I stand out.
Kyebitondo: I wore two different gowns from the church and reception venues.
Initially, I had chosen one gown, the mermaid dress but my sister advised that I add an alternative in case one got dirty before the reception venue.
I hired the Cinderella gown at Shs1.7m while the mermaid was at Shs1.2m both from Angels Bridals.
The changing dress was made by Ann Musinguzi who has always been my designer.
Who did your hair and make-up?
Kyebitondo: The hair and makeup for me and the matron were done by Prisca Makeup & Hairdo at about Shs450,000.
Did you have any fears for the day?
Kyebitondo: On our way to the church, the traffic jam was heavy for about 30 minutes which got me worried a bit but we still arrived on time.
Segawa: I feared that the number of guests may exceed but were still able to manage it when happened.
Did you have any challenges?
Kyebitondo: My husband travelled for a work training in the USA a month to the ceremony and only returned a week to the big day.
It was challenging coordinating all the service providers by myself.
Segawa: When I travelled abroad, I was worried the stress would be too much for my bride.
What were your best moments?
Kyebitondo: I had a lot of fun while taking the morning shots at the hotel with my entourage.
I was filled with happiness when my brother walked me down the aisle and during the exchanging of vows. Also, the dancing and the shoe game at the reception excited me.
Segawa: I enjoyed the part of kissing her at the altar because it was something I always looked forward to for my wedding day.
Did you have a honeymoon?
Segawa: Yes, we had a one week honeymoon at Safari Park in Nairobi which cost us Shs6m with flight expenses.
Any advice to those getting married?
Kyebitondo: As long as you have decided on the wedding date, even if you think you do not have enough money, go for it. There are always those people who are willing to support whether with finances or advice.
Segawa: You should spend time knowing and understanding each other during the dating period. This helps in creating a peaceful and harmonious marriage.
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