By Christine Katende
Ssalongo Godfrey Kyeswa, a pastor at Discipleship Church Namumira in Mukono District and Nalongo Peace Nassejje, a housewife have been married since 2002. The couple shared their love story with us.
How did you get to know Peace?
Godfrey: I first saw her at church where I was the youth leader in 1998. She was a beautiful young girl who I believed would make a good wife. I approached my pastor and shared with him about my intentions for her.
What was your reaction when you learnt about Godfrey’s intentions?
Peace: It was a surprise. I used to see him taking on ministerial work in the church, however, I listened to the pastor, and even after we met, I had to think about it and I agreed because he had decided to marry me despite my background. Godfrey was and is still God-fearing, respectful, loving, handsome, kind, and a good listener, among other attributes.
What caught your eye?
Godfrey: She was beautiful, God-fearing, respectful and had accepted Christ. Peace has never changed, she is still the same disciplined woman I met 17 years ago.
When was the wedding?
Godfrey: We were wedded by Ps Tom Wanyama on March 16, 2002 at Lugazi Pentecostal church. We later hosted 600 guests at one of the school halls.
What was your budget?
Godfrey: Shs7m but we did not hold meetings. My friends and well-wishers would bring their contributions to me or the pastor.
Did you go for a honeymoon?
Godfrey: No, we did not, we decided to have it at our home.
What was it like missing honeymoon?
Peace: I wasn’t happy with his decision. Apart from the dinner treat on the wedding night, I woke up and washed utensils which I did not think a newly wedded bride would do, I still demand my honeymoon.
Which theme colour did you choose?
Godfrey: We did not have a theme colour, church members thought of all the colours that made the hall and church beautiful.
Which kind of music did you have?
Godfrey: We chose to have gospel music be played as opposed to secular.
Were you dissatisfied in any way on your big day?
Godfrey: Nothing, everything went as it was planned, we did not even have any debts after the wedding.
Peace: I didn’t like the fact that guests did not have a buffet, I had wanted people to eat real food as opposed to snacks.
Which kind of challenges do you remember getting during the preparations?
Godfrey: The so many phone calls I received from people demanding meetings but I kept advising them to reach out to me since we had agreed with the pastors not to hold any meetings.
Peace: I had nothing, not even moving different places looking for a gown. The truth is that the only gown I got was not fitting but it was adjusted to my size and I was good to go.
What did you consider when choosing what to wear?
Godfrey: I had a tailor-made grey suit with a white shirt at Shs70,000.
How has counselling been vital in your marriage life?
Godfrey: We were told to keep the holiness in our marriage and be patient amidst any challenges that may come along the way.
Peace: Respecting myself and my marriage as well as my husband despite all challenges. Being a good listener and keeping the communication between us were among the so many things taught during counselling.
Which challenges have you faced so far?
Godfrey: Despite financial issues, I got a problem with my skin that put me down for a year. I thank God for my wife who kept by my side even during that time.
Peace: So many challenges such as not knowing who my real parents were but we have been supporting each other in all situations.
Which achievements can you talk about?
Godfrey: With God, we have been able to make a number of good friends, our children are all in school, we have managed to complete different projects and to find my wife’s parents after 33 years.
Peace: God has blessed me with four children; two boys and two girls. We have been able to develop in different walks of life.
What mistakes do you think people do that ruin their marriages?
Godfrey: Choosing wrong friends that give wrong advice, failure to forgive and own up to mistakes.
Peace: Many women fail to analyse issues and go with rumours. Poor communication skills, it is better to listen to each other and sort out issues.
Tips for a successful marriage
Godfrey: Better if you marry a friend, this will help you overcome any challenges. Respect, trust and listen to your wife.
Peace: Keep a deaf ear to rumours because not everything said is true.
Your happiest moment in life as a couple.
Godfrey: I was overwhelmed with joy when my wife conceived twins despite what people said when I was sick for a year.
Peace: My husband got back on his feet after being bedridden for a year even when doctors thought he would not function again.