By Beatrice Nakibuuka
Adonia Kibuuka and Alice Nabbanja tied the knot on October 6. They met at the end of 2017 and it did not take them long to realise that they were meant for each other. We had a chat with the love birds and they told us details about their story.
How did you meet?
Adonia: I had prayed from the church Alice attended thrice and the fourth time, I joined her cell group for Bible study. I sat beside her and she was welcoming. I introduced myself to her and incidentally, she was my sister’s namesake.
I then asked someone to give me her phone contact because she seemed friendly to everyone. For the few hours we interacted, I liked her. When I got home that evening, I called to test if she would be mad at me because I had got her number from another person.
Alice: Adonia called before I arrived home. I asked him to call a few minutes later. He then made frequent and subsequent calls but I only treated him as a friend that I met at church. He asked for a day out but I failed to make time because I was always busy. I asked him to come to my shop and two months later, he said he was interested in me. I had seen him for a long time but he did not make his intentions clear, so, I thought I needed to give a chance to someone else. It took me time to evaluate Adonia but he was deliberate about communication.
When did you become close?
Alice: After saying his intention, we chatted more frequently but I still wanted to take my time. One day, he tricked me into delivering some things at his parents’ home. They made me sign the visitors’ book and kept checking on me all the time. I felt good about the care his family extended to me.
Adonia: It did not take me long to realise her inner beauty and my parents liked her too. In February 2018, we started a serious relationship. I asked her to be my ‘personal’ doctor and she accepted. I then invited her to my home and she agreed.
What attracted you to each other?
Adonia: Alice is God-fearing, loving, developmental and social. She is so selfless. From this, I learnt that she would love me unconditionally. Some people show different character traits while in courtship but she was consistent.
Alice: Adonia was open about everything from the start. He is caring, loving, genuine and God-fearing. He was committed while we dated.
How did you come up with the wedding date?
Adonia: We had September in mind but this was a month for camp meeting and it would be difficult for us to find a pastor that would wed us, we settled for October.
Also, I was born and baptised in October and I thought it right to have such an event in the same month.
What was your budget?
Adonia: We had initially planned for Shs40m but with time, we realised we did not need some of the things on the budget, so we revised it to Shs30m.
We had used some of our savings; we had to save more within the six months and friends contributed through our wedding meetings.
How did you cut costs?
Adonia: We had our introduction in March and the wedding in October. This gave us ample time to have service providers whom we thought offered the best service at a low cost.
Alice: I attended an exhibition of different service providers and got as many contacts. Having many service providers gives you the liberty to weigh options.
What was special about your wedding?
Adonia: It was a colourful day. We had a launch of a perfume by Prof Julius Nyanzi that made us get the experience that will last forever. We had different perfumes at different parts of the venue as part of décor and it gave off a calming effect.
Alice: We wrote our vows and after the approval from the presiding pastor, we recited them without reading from the order of service.
How did you make it happen without disappointment?
Alice: I got anxious in the morning because he was not answering his calls. He had malaria the previous day and the last I knew was that he had been hospitalised in the night. Only my maid of honour and I, and the best man knew. I feared that he had got worse but he kept happy through the day.
What was your favourite moment?
Alice: Seeing the church packed to capacity yet there was a light drizzle.
What did you learn from the premarital counselling?
Adonia: Marriage is more than just two people living together. Your partner becomes your priority and it is important to have open communication and flexibility with the understanding that we come from different backgrounds.
Alice: Mutual respect and protection are key and we have to be transparent about our finances. Since two become one, there is need for harmony since we are from different backgrounds.
What is your advice to those intending to wed?
Adonia: Not everything that is expensive is quality. You can find a good service provider at a fair rate.
Before you even get there, have a date in mind and stick to it. Have a dream of what you want your wedding to look like.
Alice: Plan your event early enough because many people disappoint at the last minute. You need savings and do things that are within your means.