By Rashim Nabanja
Being a bride is more like being a celebrity for a day. Your wedding is one of those days on which you will have the most attention in the room as everyone will be staring at you, each with different thoughts running through their minds.
As usual, there are always two types of people in every situation. To some brides, dealing with the heavy attention and multiple compliments is not a problem, however to others, being surrounded by multiple people and being the centre of attention is a total nightmare.
This can either be because you are not used to being around large crowds, or you are just naturally the shy kind.
Here are tips on how you can go through your big day even when you are really not sure of how to act around people.
Have a small guest list
According to Natasha Kaitesi, a wedding and event’s organiser who is also the CEO of Tesi Events, shy people and large crowds do not connect at all. To them, crowds tend to have a way of creating insecurities and nervousness.
If you feel you won’t be comfortable enough and will shy away all the time, limit the number of people on your guest list.
Aidah Nabirye, a newlywed says when planning her wedding, she had a guest list of only 50 people, “I looked out for people I felt comfortable around. Even though there were those that still made me nervous, I kept focusing on those I was comfortable with.”
Instead of 300 guests, you can host about 50-100 people.
Consider going for a private wedding
Kasese songstress Heli Loyce Agaba, famously known as Heli Esli and her husband Sunshine Melody had a private wedding where they invited only 11 people.
“We decided to invite our parents and a few close friends for a private thanksgiving ceremony at church and later hosted them for a small dinner at home,” Melody commented.
Private weddings do not necessarily mean you are unable to cater for large numbers of people. At times you need to choose what you are comfortable with irrespective of what other people want.
If you are not ready to relate with so many people, put up something small with your loved ones and enjoy the moment. It is a lot better than having many people enjoying while you deal with anxiety on what’s supposed to be your day.
Choose bridesmaids you feel comfortable around
According to Najima Babirye, a mother of two, on her wedding day, she only had three bridesmaids, her sister, her best friend and her cousin, “These were the people that made me comfortable so I kept them close to me. They made me feel much more at ease.”
Kaitesi says however much some brides may want uniformity when it comes to their bridesmaids, this won’t work for you as a shy bride.
“This is the point when you have to ignore the qualities such as height similarities or colour and choose bridesmaids that will let you be yourself,” Kaitesi shares.
Wedding moments can bring about tension and if you are shy, it will be worse. You need to be surrounded by people that allow you to be your true to yourself.
Focus on your partner
As much as you have your bridesmaids as your ticket out when dealing with the crowd, they are not going to be by your side the entire time, for instance when it comes to the high table. However, the positive side is your partner will be right there with you.
Whenever you feel you are in doubt or feel like everyone is watching you, focus on him, it will calm you down.
All you need to remember is that this day is about you and your partner, the rest of the people are basically there to support you. The best thing you need to do is focus on the fact that you are getting married to the love of your life and at the moment, it’s just you and him.
No matter how nervous or anxious you might feel, know that you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.
Skip the bride and groom dance
According to Kaitesi, couples tend to copy acts from the western culture and make them a big deal hence creating tension for other brides that may want to keep up with the trend.
A shy bride is definitely a nervous bride who may prefer not to dance for guests. However breathtaking and capturing this dance may be, it isn’t a must.
Kaitesi says if you feel you really need the dance, you can do it along with the bridesmaids and groomsmen, it will feel more comfortable.
As a bride, your wedding is your big day. Do not let other people take over by putting them first. Consider your happiness first and what you are comfortable with.