By Rashim Nabanja
Couples pick wedding inspirations from almost everywhere. It can be through a story read in a magazine or friend’s wedding they attended, but mostly, movies and TV shows show us what a wedding should be like from the time we are kids.
We tend to link our lives to what happens in movies and television shows. We usually think that if something goes wrong at a wedding in a movie, it may also happen at our own, forgetting that a lot of it is fiction.
Here are some of the things that worry couples because they happened in movie they watched but most likely have zero chances of happening.
Wearing a white wedding gown is not a must
White is a famous colour for most wedding gowns in movies. There are almost no chances of seeing a bride who doesn’t wear white which makes it seem like a taboo to wear another colour.
A bride is however entitled to wear any colour of wedding gown she wishes as long as it makes her feel happy and confident. Different colours have different meaning so you can also wear a colour basing on what you want to bring out.
According to Maria Nakasule, a gown designer owning a shop in downtown Kampala, one is free to wear grey, light shades of blue, hot pink and so on as longs as it makes them feel good.
Planning a wedding takes more than just a few days
Planning a wedding in movies may take two weeks and still have everything turn out to its best. However, in real life, you could spend two months planning for your wedding and still miss out most details. Wedding planning has never been easy therefore it needs time and most of your attention to be successful the way you want it to be.
Planning a wedding doesn’t have a specific period it should take. Depending on the time you have on your hands and the date of the wedding, your planning period will be determined.
You don’t really need to hire a wedding planner
In most of the movies and TV shows we watch, it is almost impossible to see a couple that doesn’t hire a wedding planner. Immediately after the proposal, the next thing we see is the bride with her wedding planner looking for venues and tasting cake samples. However, a wedding planner is not a must.
You and your partner can decide to plan your own wedding with a little bit of help from friends or family. That way, you can use that money that you intended to spend on a wedding planner to do something else.
Jemimah Grace Musibika, a supervisor at Africell Contact shares that while organising her function, her family members took up most of the responsibilities and were dedicated to hiring and supervising service providers and eventually, things turned out perfect.
She also adds that this helped a lot on cutting the budget, “My mother took charge of the decoration and other items that are needed for setting up the venue, an aunt handled the food service provider and a family friend offered his sound and music system at a subsidised fee.”
No planner will take over your wedding
Wedding planners in some movies or TV shows are usually extra pushy and may end up being a pain in the neck, making the bride go with something they are not comfortable with. This is not the case in real life.
No service provider is going to make you do something for your wedding that you do not want. It is your big day and come to think of it, the person making you do things their way is being paid by you, so why not step up and make them comply by your rules.
A wedding is something that is likely to happen once in a life time so always try your best to make sure things run according to how you want them to.
The ‘special’ bride and groom dance isn’t a must
This dance is termed as ‘special’ because it is the first time you are dancing together as a legally married couple.
We have all seen that moment in movies when the bride and groom stand under the spot light and enjoy their slow dance as all the guests watch them. If you are not good at dancing or probably the shy kind, you can as well skip this moment.
Skip the dance and just dance along with the rest of the guests, it will also create happy moments.
You don’t have to go for a honeymoon immediately
You know how weddings in the movies end with the couple enjoying some alone romantic time at the beach, or the couple driving away to their honeymoon destination in a car with the words ‘just married’ written at the back, this is not necessarily how yours should end too.
It is not a must for you as a couple to have your honeymoon immediately after the wedding. Depending on your work schedule and budget, you can have your honeymoon any time. Even if it is a month after the wedding, it will still be a honeymoon.
Aisha Namuleme says she and her husband had to report back to work immediately so they didn’t have room for a honeymoon.
“We decided we would have our honeymoon two weeks after our wedding and lucky for us, it would be during the festive season,” she shares.
Namuleme adds that to her, honeymoon is just word. As long as two people love each other, every day will feel like honeymoon.
Movies and television shows aside, try as hard as you can not to copy what you see and just follow your heart. The more you copy from the movies, the more anxious you will get thinking that what happened in a certain movie will happen at your wedding too.