Barbra Nambuya and Enoch Makangatied the knot on 28 October 2019. The two had met in 2016 and after getting to know each other, they went on to have matrimonial events a year away from each other. For instance, the Kukyala in 2017, introduction in 2018 and wedding in 2019. Makanga described the day as blissful. They shared their story with Beatrice Nakibuuka.
How did you meet?
Barbra: We met six years ago. A friend of mine connected us. He gave him my number and we started talking.
Enoch: Well, we met through a friend. I was coming from a Mission in Karamoja and I saw a photo of a beautiful girl on a friend’s phone. I got her number and when I came back to Kampala, things started unfolding. I was sure I wanted her even after a few meetings.
What did you like about her?
Enoch: She is very enterprising; whenever we passed a business she would be like, “can we start up that business or do this or that.” When Barbie loves she loves wholeheartedly. We are of the same faith, Seventh Day Adventist and her small size is what I wanted in a woman.
When did you become close?
Enoch: Well, I was a person who was busy and moved a lot that getting close was not easy. I resided in Entebbe and she was living in Kampala. We went to different churches but after church I would get time to catch up. We would go for ice cream. I liked pizza every Wednesday and she did not like it but I am glad she likes Pizza more than I do these days.
Things started unfolding with time; we met our parents and relatives for kukyala, introduction and then wedding. All events were a year apart. I knew she was the woman of my life.
Why did you decide to have your events a year apart?
Enoch: We never wanted to rush anything so we took our time not to be financially stressed.
What are the advantages of taking longer to make all the functions?
- There is ample time to prepare financially and emotionally. I had my phone throughout the wedding. I kept texting my DJ to play a song I wanted and also communicate with my service providers because I had no pressure.
- You don’t spend too much. Each function you know service providers you want to use.
- It gives you more time to know the person you are going to commit to.
Many people have decided to schedule their events in a spaced way but never get to follow through with the functions. How come you were able to do that?
Enoch: It’s all about committing to your promises. I had given Barbra the days for the function and it was important to me to fulfill the promise.
Don’t people get tired of being in meetings for your marital ceremonies for all three years? How did you manage that?
Enoch: We made sure we do not overwhelm people;
Kukyala, strictly family and few close friends helped us. It was very private. Introduction- Close friends and the church contributed and when we prepared for the wedding, that’s when everyone was on board.
What challenges did you face?
We changed most of service providers for all functions and some disappointed.
When your functions are apart, you have lower bargaining power
How did people comment about this kind of arrangement?
Enoch: Most people prefer doing it at once, but older people appreciated it. The younger ones saw it as old school
How did you propose?
Enoch: I proposed to her in 2017. I cannot remember the dates (you know men). It was at Ham Towers, Cinemax. I told her my sister wanted to take her for a movie. It was Tomb Raider, all our friends entered first including me and then they (Barbie and my sister) entered later. After the movie, our video started playing, showcasing the images when we first met till then, and when they switched on the lights, I was on one knee at the front of the theater, it was a lovely moment, she said ‘yes’.
How would you describe your wedding day?
Barbra: It was a day I would love to live every weekend, I couldn’t have enough of it, seeing our people so happy and I enjoyed every moment.
How did you prepare for it?
Barbra: I could not manage to prepare alone, my sisters helped me a lot. Then our chairman Solomon did a great job; we managed to prepare in just three months.
Enoch: Our wedding was supposed to be a year before but things were not falling in place. When 2018 ended, we decided that we would have it in about six months to October. I was so anxious. Well at some point I gave up on the preparations and left it to God.
How did you fund your wedding?
Barbra: Our budget was Shs15m and we shared responsibilities; my husband transport, food and the address system while my area was photography, cake and the wardrobe.
We set aside some money but raised the rest during weekly meetings with friends and family.
So what percentage of the money did you have?
Barbra: I can’t explain but we managed to raise enough funds to cover all the service providers to zero balance after the D-day.
Did you get wedding rings?
Barbra: We did not get the rings immediately because, with or without rings, we loved each other. Rings are just for formality so we got them afterwards.
Enoch: Actually we did not get wedding rings until people started asking. We were good without them so it didn’t matter.
How do you define marriage from your own perspective?
Enoch: Marriage is a university, you learn and relearn a lot of things.
Barbra: Marriage is a sweet thing that you can make into what you want. I want to enjoy it, so I work upon being a happy wife every day.
Does the phrase until death does us part still hold water?
Barbra: Yes, because even after death I would chose him in my afterlife. I love waking up every morning besides the person I love the most.
Enoch: You must be committed to one person and nothing should come between the two of you, thus the vow till death do us part.
What is the most embarrassing moment you have had together?
Barbra: Embarrassing moment we had together was on our wedding day when we went for the photo shoot and were locked outside the premises’ gates since the place was out of bounds for photography. We had not planned well when it came to photography.
What are those things you cannot let your maid do?
Enoch: Well, my maid cannot clean my boxers. Never! Not even sit on the same couch with me or disrespect my wife or my son in any way.
Barbra: I can’t let her enter our bedroom, she’s also not supposed to serve my husband meals.
Given another chance to do the wedding, what would you do different?
Barbra: The decoration was a disappointment; the decorator did not deliver. Nonetheless, I remained happy and did not let anything get in my way.
Which was the most expensive item on your budget?
Barbra: Food was the most expensive at Shs6m and order of service was the cheapest at Shs100,000.
The cakeThe Makangas had a 10 tier fruit cake in white, silver and a touch of turquoise blue made by Divine cakes at Shs2m.
Theme colours: White, silver, turquoise
The gown: Barbra got her Cinderella gown from Sister’s Bridal Shop Kampala Road at Shs1.7m.
Bride: Barbra Nambuya
Groom: Enoch Makanga
Venue: SDA Bunga Central Church
Reception: Adventist Centre
Main celebrant: Pr Godfrey Lubwama
Number of Guests: 500