By Jessica Sabano
A few days to Christmas in 2012, while at school Joel Kafuko knew almost every colleague save for one woman who always crossed his path. One day, Joel decided to initiate a conversation with- Juliet Nassanga. When Juliet cooperated, Joel suggested that they have a relationship. She asked him to let her think about it.
“We would sometimes meet in town but only say hello and everyone would go their way,” Joel says.
In 2016, the couple made up and took the relationship to another level. Juliet thrilled her relatives including her mother with news of her relationship but her mother asked her to be cautious because most men were always not committed. Her mother also asked her to tell the man to wed her. Her relatives too believed this would be proof that he was serious.
“I wanted an introduction first but I wasn’t prepared for the wedding. So, I told Juliet how I wasn’t ready for a wedding and this also didn’t go well with her,” she says.
Juliet asked her boyfriend to leave his parents’ home and rent somewhere. He told her about his extra responsibilities but promised to oblige in 2017. They found a place in Mukono Town and Juliet contributed.
“To my surprise, when she was shifting, she carried everything including saucepans indicating that she was really ready for me and this impressed me. Joel says he had never been in a rented house and it took him time to shift. Juliet was so supportive that she always topped up to get us something better. This trait made me realise the wife in her,” Joel says.
In 2017, Juliet always received communication from her parents reminding her to wed before moving in with Joel. This irked him and he asked her to return to her parents’ home until their wedding.
Joel recalls the words he said to Juliet, “If your parents think I am not serious or wasting your time, then go back and stay with them as I look for money to wed you.” She left.
Previously, he had proposed that they have their introduction in November 2018 and plan for the wedding later. However, Juliet’s friends complained and asked why he would not do what her parents preferred. The couple again cut off communication.
“In March 2018, Juliet returned but I asked if her parents had consented to her decision. Even then, she received calls from relatives insisting that I wed her,” he says.
At the end of 2018, Juliet’s mother fell sick. Juliet asked Joel to visit her mother and be introduced. When he went for kukyala, everything was going on smoothly until her parents asked where they would get wedded from.
“I went with the Rev Emmanuel Mugabi and we made a small budget of Shs1.5m.
The Rev suggested that the introduction takes place on November 23, 2019 and wed three days later. The clergyman visited the couple frequently to help them organise the functions. Juliet always reminded him about how eager the parents were for their wedding. Juliet says her parents wanted Joel to focus on wedding instead of kukyala and introduction.
The Rev Mugabi went on to suggest a wedding of few people, which seemed utterly crazy given the initial 500 guests. Juliet’s relatives contributed generously which was reassuring.
The couple had an introduction ceremony that only had 13 invited guests and a wedding in the same month at St Philips and Andrew’s Cathedral in Mukono Municipality.
They treated their guests to a sumptuous dinner at Summer Terrace Gardens, Mukono. Joel’s favourite moment was when Juliet was handed over to him at the altar. Juliet was excited to meet Joel at the altar.
Joel says a section of his family didn’t respect his decision of getting married before constructing a house. However, he says, “a church wedding makes one die a comfortable man.” The couple went to Jinja for a honeymoon.
Date: November 26, 2019
Groom: Joel Kafuko
Bride: Juliet Nassanga
Church: St Phillip’s and Andrew’s Church, Mukono
Cake: Juliet Family’s cake at Shs1.5m
Salon: Doris hair and makeup
Church: St Phillips and Andrews Cathedral, Mukono
Celebrants: Provost Enos Kityo Kagodo and Aphaf Mugabi