By Rashim Nabanja
Not everyone likes to seat down at a ceremony and just watch everything go on without them participating in any item. To some, the ceremony can even be boring and they may get tempted to leave earlier than they could have wished.
Letting your loved ones actively participate in different activities on your big day usually gives them a sense of happiness, knowing that they were able to at least help a sister/brother out in any way on such a memorable day of their lives.
It could be through entertainment or running errands. Whichever the case, it is usually an honour.
My wedding has therefore helped put together some of the ways in which you can let your loved ones take part in different aspects of your wedding.
Use your guest list to choose a supervisor
However much you have tried to make sure that you plan things accordingly, you will still need someone that will have to supervise the event and make sure that everything is moving the way you want it to.
To avoid any unnecessary regrets and disorganization, people tend to hire wedding planners to help them with this bit, however, why not choose someone from your family or friends to help out if they are willing to.
The benefit of having someone you closely know as your wedding supervisor is the relation they will have with your guests. Since the person may practically be familiar with half of them, it is easy for them to relate with almost everyone and create a sense of calmness in the environment.
Rashidah Zalwango says on her wedding day, she asked one of her cousins to help supervise her wedding and this helped her achieve exactly what she wanted, “She knew exactly how I wanted my things to turn out. She made sure all the service providers did their work accordingly and the guests loved her because they were familiar with her.”
You don’t need to hire a wedding planner/supervisor. All you need to do is ask for a helping hand from someone that you feel knows you too well and will do the job exactly how you want them to.
In case you can’t find one, then maybe you can look in the direction of hiring.
Being part of the entourage
There are many situations where couples have ended up choosing the people to be part of their entourage basing on physical qualities. Just because they want to have people of uniform colour, height or weight, they may end up putting a friend’s friend on the list leaving the closest person to them out, just because they feel he or she doesn’t fit the qualities they want.
Jauharah Mukisa narrates the regret she felt when she chose people she didn’t know at all to be part of her entourage only because they had similar skin tones and were in the same height range with her, “I had four bridesmaids and they were all friends to my cousin. We didn’t relate at all and they were hard to manage, every one of them was doing things the way they wanted to.”
Mukisa further explains that she wanted all her bridesmaids to have a similar hairstyle but none of them agreed to her request. She believes everything could have worked out if she had chosen people she knew well and they could have listened to her.
According, to Connie Atim, wedding coordinator, it is important for the bride to choose family members to be part of your entourage because being surrounded by people you are comfortable with is the best way to go for a smooth running of events. Why choose someone you are not familiar with to play an important role yet the one close to you might even do it way better?
We are usually surrounded with people that have great talent but we tend to ignore them and hire others to perform, without giving chance to our loved ones to showcase what they have.
If you have a friend or family member that is good at singing, dancing or even poetry, ask them to prepare something special for your ceremony. You are not only giving them a platform, but you get to at least bring some unique entertainment for your guests, and it may end up being way better than what you might have paid for.
Juliet Kamara, a boutique owner in Wandegeya says one of her nieces is very good at ballet. Despite her young age, she had managed to win a couple of awards from her school in the UK. She therefore asked her if she was willing to perform at her wedding to which she agreed, “If I tell you the girl captured everyone’s attention way more than the professional musicians we had hired, you wouldn’t believe me.”
Kamara adds that Ariana, (her niece) got all the guests emotional as she performed to John Legend’s All of me instrumental and after the ceremony, everyone couldn’t stop talking about her.
Guests love seeing something new. If you have talent close to you, why not let them showcase it. That one person might end up being the biggest highlight that may make your day memorable.
The people on our guest list are always those we care about and vice versa. However, you can’t assign each and every guest specific role to play on your wedding, but you can still actively involve them from their seats.
Wedding games are some of the things that help keep the crowd active and entertained. Come up with one that will put up a little tension and fun for your guests.
Kamara says she always dreamt to have a wedding day full of fun but not just for herself. She also wanted to let her guests have more fun rather than sitting back and cheering whatever went on.
“My husband and I planned this bottle game that we once heard about. We got an outstanding bottle that we filled with small papers all including different kinds of activities. The bottle was to go around and whoever held it when the music stopped had to pick a paper, and do what it said,” Kamara narrates.
She further explains that the game was really entertaining and everyone got a desired dose of laughter. She feels she really managed to engage her guests in something concerning the liveliness of her big day.
There are many types of wedding games you can choose from but you can also choose to come up with a unique one. Look for something fun that will leave praising how fun and active your ceremony was.
Some of us tend to get that little frown on our faces when we hear that speeches are coming up but come on, wedding speeches can be amazing. The only thing that may make them hectic is when someone goes over the time limit when speaking but to solve this, have an MC that will make it clear to them on how much time to use.
According to Jeff Ziwa, a managing director at Emcee Portal, parents should be given between five-ten minutes while other speakers should get about three-five minutes.
Wedding speeches a way for your loved ones to express how happy they are for you. Some include advice you may need in the future and some include flashback of how far you have come with your partner.
Allow a few of your guest to pour their hearts out and send you a message. However, keep in mind that there are those people you wouldn’t want to get their hands on the mic because things might take the wrong course. People like an ex or maybe a drunken friend. You wouldn’t want the special moment to turn out into an embarrassing one.
However, always keep in mind that if your loved one isn’t comfortable with a role that you are requesting them to take part in, do not force them. It is always better for someone to do something willingly in order for it to turn out perfect.