By Beatrice Nakibuuka
Patricia Nabimanya had been Isaac Kibombo sister’s friend for a long time. When Patricia was in her S.6 vacation, Isaac tried to date her but she was in a relationship with someone else.
“He was so bold at that time, stating that he wanted to marry me but I was in another relationship. We then just continued to be friends. After my graduation in 2019, he came back again but this time not as direct as he was in the first place,” she recalls. Since they were both in the church choir, Isaac started by dropping her home and constantly checking if she was okay. She could not refuse his gestures because they had been friends for some time. This went on for about six months, until Isaac told her that he wanted to marry her.
Isaac says, “I did not propose the white way of going down on one knee but by the time I went to her, I was determined and had set the dates already. I had the confidence that she was going to be my wife. I always follow my instinct and I was right about it. We also had become close friends and the little I knew about her was enough for me. I had given myself a year to date, introduce and marry. I did not want to waste time.”
Besides being God-fearing, Isaac is well-versed with Patricia’s character and felt they were compatible. “Our likes and dislikes were the same. Compatibility is what makes marriage,” he says. To him, there was no reason to date for a long time. Everything else would just fall in place. He would learn the more about Patricia while they were together.
She says: “He was too honest and open like a book. He was himself when he approached me and when he proposed to me, I asked him for some time and I told my mother about him. To her, it was about my happiness and how I felt about him. After a week, it was a yes from me.”
In October, they had their kukyala and the rest of the events were slated three months apart. The preparations for the next stages started and were going well until the President declared a lock-down and a stop to public functions four days to their introduction. They had planned to have their introduction on March 21 and the wedding on May 21 but the lock-down changed everything.
Luckily for them, they had only informed a few people about their wedding dates so they kept postponing, waiting for the situation to improve. “We changed the dates for our wedding three times. The service providers were good to us and we kept updating them about the various changes we were having. We really wanted to have friends celebrate with us. Also, the transport system was a bit tight so we wanted to wait until there was a bit of laxity.”
When they finally settled for a date, their marriage banns were pinned on the notice board at the church, SDA Bunga Central and also posted on the church social media groups in case anyone had complaints about the couple’s intention to wed, for 21 days.
Time flew and while the couple had had to attend counselling sessions for two months, they had them for only three weeks. “We had four sessions per week and we would meet with the pastor for about three hours per session,” they say.
Isaac and Patricia had intended to spend about Shs40m as their budget but with the lock-down, there was no way of fundraising. They had to cut the budget to Shs15m of which they financed about 80 per cent. Their relatives and friends also played a great role contributing to the wedding expenses and they had to contact people on a personal basis.
The couple cut costs by choosing Sir Jose Hotel in Ggaba a place that had a small, neat but great ambiance and that did not need a lot of decoration. Patricia says, “We just needed a little touch with the décor and that was settled. We spent only Shs1.5m. We also used my matron’s car as the bridal car and since we were cutting costs, I left out the maids because I would have had to pay for their salon and make-up. I just had flower girls.”
Although some people had been complaining about wedding banns not being read publicly, Isaac says he was confident and had no worries that someone would come up to challenge their marriage. Patricia, on the other hand, recalls being tense until the last minute when they were joined together in church.
A friend helped the couple bake their two-tier cake that was gold and white with strawberry, blueberry, butterscotch and passion flavours and Patricia was part of the process since she is also a baker. It cost the couple Sh500,000. Since their introduction and wedding dates were five days apart, they cut costs by booking the same service providers for both events. “It is always better to have little spacing between your events because the service providers usually give a discount if you book them for two events. The décor, photography and cake people charged us fairly,” Isaac says.
And so with all that in place, Isaac and Patricia held their introduction ceremony at Wakiso Kasengejje on June 21st and then five days later tied the knot on June 26.
If the couple had a chance to repeat their wedding, Patricia says she would invite more friends to be witnesses while Isaac would ask for more time to take photos because they only had 30 minutes for photography.
“We had to end the function early enough so that guests could travel before curfew. The reception was over by 5pm.”