{"id":17652,"date":"2021-04-12T10:51:16","date_gmt":"2021-04-12T07:51:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/?p=17652"},"modified":"2021-04-12T12:00:21","modified_gmt":"2021-04-12T09:00:21","slug":"timothy-made-a-wooden-ring-for-my-proposal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/?p=17652","title":{"rendered":"Timothy made a wooden ring for my proposal"},"content":{"rendered":"

Promise Twinamukye<\/strong><\/p>\n

Timothy Teko, a civil servant, first saw Agnes Achieng, a banker in primary school as she played dodge ball with her friends in 1996.<\/p>\n

After school that day, he met her again as she helped her mother at the shop. Timothy asked if they could be friends, to which she smiled but did not say a word.
\nLater, Timothy and friends would peer through her classroom window and smile at her.
\n\u201cI also started going to their shop specifically to buy kerosene for obvious reasons and the days I wouldn\u2019t find her at the shop I would go back home angry for missing the opportunity of seeing my friend,\u201d Timothy says.<\/p>\n

Their friendship grew but they lost contact when they joined secondary school because Timothy had relocated with his sister.
\nThey met again during her Senior Six vacation when he went to visit his brother back in the same village.<\/p>\n

The magical hug<\/strong>
\nIn 2007 at university, he hugged her during a guild president rally and it felt different.
\n\u201cI couldn\u2019t explain what had just happened to me yet I had been her friend for many years. After that hug, I could not get my eyes off her even as we parted ways after the rally at the Freedom Square,\u201d he recalls.
\nTimothy says what attracted him to Agnes was her charming character, dedication, focus, hard work and love.
\n\u201cShe is always smiling,\u201d he says.
\nFor Agnes, Timothy\u2019s sense of humour, calmness, hard work, care, love and kind-heartedness<\/p>\n

made her heart skip a beat.
\n\u201cHe is so funny that his jokes make me laugh to tears,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n

The proposal<\/strong>
\nThe following year Timothy could not resist Agnes any longer. He crafted a ring out of wood and aimed for her heart.
\n\u201cHe knelt before me asking if I could marry him and I looked at his creative unique ring with a smile,\u201d she recollects. First, she wondered how long it took him to craft such a ring inscribed with the initials AT (Agnes Timothy).
\nShe said, \u2018yes\u2019 with tears rolling down her cheeks, and Timothy\u2019s words to her were \u201cHoney, take this ring as a sign of my true and undying love for you\u201d.
\n\u201cI was so excited for my long-time friend proposing to be my future partner. It was amazing that we would be together. I got my mind off the wooden ring to my best friend,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n

Preparations<\/strong>
\nThe couple revealed that it took them three months to prepare for the ceremony. The decision of bride price had to be made first. This is purely done by elders and the rwot (head of the bride\u2019s clan).<\/p>\n

Timothy reveals they had a pre-visit to Agnes\u2019 family with his elders to discuss erwor, the bride price in a \u2018mini parliament\u2019 presided over by the rwot.
\nElders from the groom\u2019s side had to remove their shoes, crawl through the entrance to access the parliament where they sat on mats. On the other hand, the elders from the bride\u2019s side enjoyed the comfort of their chairs until the end of the bride price negotiation.
\nOn agreement of the bride price, the date of the bride price delivery was set before the actual day of the event.
\nOnce the bride price was delivered, the parliament resumed to verify if what was agreed on in the initial discussion was delivered.
\nWhen all was settled, the clan flag was waved by the parliament guard. They sang songs of excitement including blowing of whistles, an indication that the celebration could officially now start.<\/p>\n

The marriage<\/strong>
\nParents from both sides required consent from rwot and the elders for the traditional marriage celebration to start.
\nAfter the parents of Timothy and Agnes got consent from rwot and the elders, the function was supposed to start.
\nHowever, according to Agnes, the traditional obligation which had to be endorsed by the elders in the mini parliament delayed so the function started late.
\nTimothy\u2019s mother wore antelope skin for the function, which identified her as the groom\u2019s mother.
\n\u201cWe welcomed Timothy with mwelbull, a dance that women performed. Timothy presented a goat before he could enter our compound because the entourage cannot be allowed in without it,\u201d Agnes explains.
\nThe groom and his team continued with traditional dances and folk songs as they waited to be allowed in.
\n\u201cWe picked up Agnes and took her home, where she was welcomed by the women and my mother,\u201d Timothy says.
\nAlagat, a particular type of metal, was put around Agnes\u2019s neck and she was also smeared with cow ghee and they dressed her in cow skin to symbolise that she is now someone\u2019s wife among other initiation rituals. All this while, the elders were given kutkuto, a local brew which is prepared using roasted maize flour brought from Agnes\u2019s home.<\/p>\n

Outfit<\/strong>
\nThe groom wore a traditional cap with a white ostrich feather and held a small horn covered by fur. His outfit also comprised a leopard and cow skin at the front, then a necklace and long sticks got specifically from the mountains. These were provided by the clan members.
\nThe sheets tied around Timothy\u2019s waist like a skirt and scarf were bought from Kangole Market in Karamoja and hand-stitched by Karimojong women.
\nFor Agnes, her traditional skirt, waist and neck beads were also homemade by Karimojong women.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Promise Twinamukye Timothy Teko, a civil servant, first saw Agnes Achieng, a banker in primary school as she played dodge ball with her friends in 1996. After school that day, he met her again as she helped her mother at the shop. Timothy asked if they could be friends, to which she smiled but did […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":17653,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":{"source_name":"","source_url":"","via_name":"","via_url":"","override_template":"0","override":[{"template":"1","single_blog_custom":"","parallax":"1","fullscreen":"1","layout":"right-sidebar","sidebar":"default-sidebar","second_sidebar":"default-sidebar","sticky_sidebar":"1","share_position":"top","share_float_style":"share-monocrhome","show_share_counter":"1","show_view_counter":"1","show_featured":"1","show_post_meta":"1","show_post_author":"1","show_post_author_image":"1","show_post_date":"1","post_date_format":"default","post_date_format_custom":"Y\/m\/d","show_post_category":"1","show_post_reading_time":"0","post_reading_time_wpm":"300","show_zoom_button":"0","zoom_button_out_step":"2","zoom_button_in_step":"3","show_post_tag":"1","show_prev_next_post":"1","show_popup_post":"1","number_popup_post":"1","show_author_box":"0","show_post_related":"0","show_inline_post_related":"0"}],"override_image_size":"0","image_override":[{"single_post_thumbnail_size":"crop-500","single_post_gallery_size":"crop-500"}],"trending_post":"0","trending_post_position":"meta","trending_post_label":"Trending","sponsored_post":"0","sponsored_post_label":"Sponsored by","sponsored_post_name":"","sponsored_post_url":"","sponsored_post_logo_enable":"0","sponsored_post_logo":"","sponsored_post_desc":""},"jnews_primary_category":{"id":""},"footnotes":""},"categories":[524],"tags":[],"ppma_author":[1784],"class_list":["post-17652","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-real-stories"],"authors":[{"term_id":1784,"user_id":1,"is_guest":0,"slug":"weddingadmin","display_name":"weddingadmin","avatar_url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/cd3996c46efafdc40969010bfd78c8e4dda9d99318e7dd6403983ea0dadbcfce?s=96&d=mm&r=g","author_category":"","first_name":"","last_name":"","user_url":"","job_title":"","description":""}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17652","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=17652"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17652\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":17663,"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17652\/revisions\/17663"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/17653"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=17652"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=17652"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=17652"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fppma_author&post=17652"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}