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By\u00a0Syovata Ndambuki<\/strong><\/p>\n

On September 22, 2012, Aston Muchela, a corporate lawyer, was all set to walk down the aisle with the love of his life, Winnie. Their wedding coincided with his 30th birthday, a fact that was both exciting and nerve-wracking for him. Aston was not the only one enduring a cocktail of emotions. His bride, Winnie, was happy to be marrying her friend yet a tinge of worry refused to go away when she thought of some horror stories she had heard about marriage.<\/p>\n

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\u201cBeing an advocate, I had come across many stories of women being battered by their husbands. Another nightmare was the issue of cheating. I was so afraid of getting hurt and having my trust betrayed. Looking at the stories I had come across made me worry about the marriage succeeding.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Although Aston and Winnie had a lot of support and counsel from friends and family, most of their fears simply refused to fade away.<\/p>\n

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\u201cI was advised to consider signing up for pre-marital counselling. Winnie agreed to this and settled for the programme offered at our church.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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With great enthusiasm, Winnie and Aston began their counselling sessions hoping to have their fears allayed once and for all. A few sessions in, they realised their expectations barely scratched the surface.<\/p>\n

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Husband\u2019s role<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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\u201cWe covered major topics such as family finances, handling third parties, roles and expectation in marriage, sexual intimacy and honeymoon, parenting and children and health issues. I particularly found the topic on biblical foundations of marriages to be quite enlightening. We were given a spiritual angle of marriage. I discovered that marriage was beyond my decision to marry; there is a higher power that instituted and governs the unit,\u201d says Aston.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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For Winnie, the sessions were a game changer that has seen her triumph over marital challenges for the past 10 years.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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\u201cMy biggest take-away was on how to treat each other regardless of our professional or financial status. I learnt the importance of recognising the husband as the head of the home. I must admit it was quite humbling since we are both lawyers…\u201d Click to read more…<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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