{"id":24005,"date":"2023-05-08T23:33:06","date_gmt":"2023-05-08T20:33:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/?p=24005"},"modified":"2023-05-08T23:33:06","modified_gmt":"2023-05-08T20:33:06","slug":"how-a-groom-organised-an-introduction-ceremony-with-an-entourage-of-8-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/?p=24005","title":{"rendered":"How a groom organised an introduction ceremony with an entourage of 8 people"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Maria Immaculate Owechi<\/strong><\/p>\n

In Buganda culture, the girl\u2019s family largely determines the number of people a groom should carry as his escorts to marry their daughter in a traditional ceremony.<\/p>\n

This is sometimes done basing on the available resources like size of the compound in which the function will take place, expenditure on the visitors and how big or intimate the bride\u2019s family may want the event. On the usual, the man\u2019s family is given between 20-50 people as escorts, while the bride\u2019s family, being the hosts have an unlimited number. These functions typically have between 150-300 attendees.<\/p>\n

However, in the case of Baker Ntende, a social worker, he went with eight escorts to be introduced and estimates the number of people who welcomed him from the bride\u2019s side to have been about 50.\"\"<\/p>\n

Ntende explains how he made his function with 8 escorts. Ntende reveals that during the\u00a0kukyala<\/em>\u00a0ceremony, 3 people escorted him including his brother Joshua, sister Prossy and friend, Patricia.<\/p>\n

\u201cI drove alone all the way from Jinja and picked my escorts and then headed to Mega Supermarket where we shopped a few items to carry for our In-laws like Bread, sugar, tea leaves, cooking oil soap and among other household essentials on a budget of Shs200, 000,\u201d the groom explains.<\/p>\n

When they reached the home of Nakiranda\u2019s uncle who had raised her as his own in Makindye, his brother, Joshua spoke on Ntende\u2019s behalf.\"\"<\/p>\n

Nakiranda\u2019s uncle gave Ntende the liberty of deciding the number of people to come with for the\u00a0kwanjula\u00a0<\/em>ceremony. It is at this moment that Ntende told them he wanted to come with 10 escorts for his official introduction ceremony to their daughter, Beatrice Nakiranda, an engineer by profession.<\/p>\n

On the D-day however, eight of the 10 people came as the other two faced a miscommunication problem.<\/p>\n

He reveals that he and Nakiranda had wanted a small intimate ceremony in that at first, they had agreed that their\u00a0kukyala<\/em>\u00a0and introduction takes place on the same day, but his fianc\u00e9e\u2019s family preferred them different.\"\"<\/p>\n

\u201cAfter Nakiranda had said yes to my marriage proposal last year on 6th December, 2018 at my sister\u2019s wedding, we settled after for the traditional ceremony to take place in February,\u201d he explains,\u201d adding, \u201cbut due to change of plans we went for the\u00a0kukyala\u00a0<\/em>on 23rd, February this year and the Introduction ceremony took place the following month, 3rd March.<\/p>\n

For bride price, his fianc\u00e9e\u2019s uncle told Ntende to bring anything he saw fit which the groom says was tricky and difficult because you actually do not know what exactly they expect and might need.\"\"<\/p>\n

\u201cSo, I had to speak to my sweetheart to get a clue on which item will work best as the bride price called\u00a0Omutwalo\u00a0<\/em>in Buganda,\u201d he says.<\/p>\n

\u201cI did all the planning with the people I had gone with for the\u00a0kukyala\u00a0<\/em>and on the Introduction day, I loaded the other big items into a small truck and still drove all the way from Jinja alone with other small gifts placed behind my car seats and boot.\u201d Ntende reveals.<\/p>\n

But his car ended up breaking down in the middle of Mabira road, so he had to get out, take out the gifts from the boot to get the tools to replace the car tyre.\"\"<\/p>\n

\u201cThis is how l delayed my entourage on the road which made us arrive late at 4pm at the function yet we were expected to be there by 2:30pm,\u201d Ntende shares his challenge.<\/p>\n

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The groom adds that the other challenge was that when he linked up with the rest of the other entourage members, his brother who had taken up the responsibility of hiring a spokesperson didn\u2019t which made us panic a bit. So, in order to amend the mistake, his brother Joshua decided to be the\u00a0mwogeezi\u00a0<\/em>(spokesperson) of the ceremony instead.\"\"<\/p>\n

\u201cAlso, at\u00a0kukyala<\/em>\u00a0we had agreed that the introduction will be an in-house ceremony but the day before the D-day, when my bride went to spend a night at her home in Makindye, she found that her family had organised a big ceremony within their compound with tents, decorations and big music systems.<\/p>\n

When his bride informed him about this change in plans, Ntende decided to keep it a secret from the rest of the crew escorting him.\"\"<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen we arrived at the ceremony, my entourage was surprised that the function was big yet we were few in number. So, when we sat in our tent, the service providers also came and sat behind us to fill the tables,\u201d he shares.<\/p>\n

\u201cAnyway, the function was still successful, my brother managed to co-ordinate everything as a spokesperson and the difference in our tribes did not matter,\u201d Ntende smiles as he shares. \u201dSince I am a Musoga and Nakiranda is a Muganda our traditional wedding systems are the same with very few differences.\u201d\"\"<\/p>\n

For the\u00a0mutawalo<\/em>\u00a0(bride price) Ntende says he brought a water tank for his father-in-law. He also went to Bulange, Mengo to purchase the needed two Buganda certificates, portraits of the Kabaka and Nnaabagereka, and a map of Buganda Kingdom.<\/p>\n

Other items included\u00a0enkoko y\u2019omuko<\/em>\u00a0(the brother-in-law\u2019s cock), ekisambi ky\u2019ente ( shank), suitcases for the mother, aunties, uncles and grandparents and food stuffs in baskets. The groom says he spent roughly a budget of Shs7million on all these items.\"\"<\/p>\n

Ntende and Nakiranda are set to walk down the aisle on 28th, June, 2019 at Downtown Watoto Church, along Kampala road. The two were actually attending pre-marital counselling at the church premises during the interview.<\/p>\n

The couple dated for one year and 9 months before they decided to make their relationships formal.<\/p>\n

Ntende also opens up that for the church wedding, they have settled for a guest list of 50 people and there are no wedding meetings for the ceremony. He says he just approaches a desired guest requesting a set amount of money after which they are given a wedding card.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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