{"id":6586,"date":"2018-10-25T11:47:40","date_gmt":"2018-10-25T11:47:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/?p=6586"},"modified":"2019-11-05T11:32:04","modified_gmt":"2019-11-05T08:32:04","slug":"the-perfect-attire-for-a-wedding-guest","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mywedding.co.ug\/?p=6586","title":{"rendered":"I am just a guest at the wedding, not the bride. Allow me to wear what I want."},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>By Grace Kenganzi<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>While talking about upcoming weddings with friends recently, what we were going to wear came up. It seemed like an easy topic and that we would soon move on. In my naivety, I mentioned the outfit I was planning to wear to a certain wedding, and the fact that I had worn it to another wedding this year. The responses! Turns out my dress of choice was a no-no, a wedding faux pas. Apparently there are rules to choosing the outfit you are going to wear for a wedding.<\/p>\n<p>Finding the wedding\u00a0 dress is supposed to be the bride\u2019s problem. That is what every wedding magazine and show says. It also seems to be the general rule. When the month of the wedding comes,the bride usually\u00a0 knows what she will look like; whether it will be a Cinderella or A-line gown, whether she will have a train or not_ you get the idea.<\/p>\n<p>So when did this stress transfer from the bride to the guests? Apparently, the invisible rules are;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You never repeat a dress. It does not matter that the dress is in a timeless style and that one of the reasons you bought it was because it looks like those dresses you will wear for years without having to worry about it being in vogue or not. How dare you be shameless enough to be seen in the same dress at more than one wedding? Do you want people to think you don\u2019t have other clothes in your outfit.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Who are you wearing? It is not enough to find a good dress. The dress must also be an opportunity to name drop. \u201cOh I\u2019m wearing so-and-so.\u201d \u201cI bought mine and the-other-one\u2019s boutique.\u201d Think of yourself at a red carpet event with paparazzi asking, \u201cwho are you wearing?\u201d This is the glamour your dress should exude but it reminds me of those \u201cmy knicker is pink, mine has flowers, mine has ribbons\u201d conversations we had during the Sunday school breaks.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Accessories are just as big a deal. After they poured cold water on what I\u2019d planned to wear, my friends\u00a0 were quick to remind me that the accessories need to complement the dress. This is not news to me, which is why I have two trusted purses I hold for weddings. They have enough space, go well with almost every outfit and they are easy to carry around. But it turns out even this was a faux pas! Hadn\u2019t I noticed that there are new trends for purses and clutch bags, they wondered.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I have noticed the new trends. I have also observed the pressure some women go through to find the perfect outfit for a wedding. That dress that will look good on Instagram(IG), complete with the perfect caption. Something like\u2026<\/p>\n<p>#OOTD Trendy designer<\/p>\n<p>#Facebeat Popular MUA<\/p>\n<p>#Accessories The other cool boutique<\/p>\n<p>#Awesomeness I got it from my mama<\/p>\n<p>You get the gist. Social media \u2013IG and Pinterest especially \u2013 is making us a little crazy guys. Being a wedding guest, comes with enough pressure on its own today. From themed wedding meeting launches to bridal showers that have got a life of their own, there is enough pressure going around.<\/p>\n<p>Do I want to show up looking good for a friend\u2019s wedding? Of course. Should I be as stressed out about finding the best dress for the day as the bride? No. If I have a dress I have won to other weddings, and it still fits, you best believe I\u2019ll wear it again. Of course there are a few rules I apply to this. For instance, I won\u2019t wear it to consecutive family weddings. Also, I usually change things up with my shoes or jewellery.<\/p>\n<p>About tailoring clothes, I have seen beautiful clothes and asked a tailor to create something similar. That should be the exception not the rule. I shouldn\u2019t be running around like a headless chicken trying to get the perfect dress. If I find an already made dress in a shop, then you best believe it is what I will buy. I wonder how my friends would react if they found out that sometimes I borrow outfits from my sisters or close friends. I\u2019ll bring it up at our next meeting.<\/p>\n<p>Wedding season is soon kicking in. I\u2019m sure I have to attend two weddings on the same day in December. What happens to the no repeating an outfit rule on this day? Will I be expected to have two different outfits on me? Definitely not. Also, can you imagine having to follow up on different tailors for outfits? These guys have a knack for completing outfits later than planned. I am not ready for that kind of pressure in my life.<\/p>\n<p>If you are a wedding guest currently feeling the pressure of finding the dress, girl relax. It is not your wedding. Don\u2019t give yourself unnecessary stress.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Grace Kenganzi While talking about upcoming weddings with friends recently, what we were going to wear came up. 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