Joseph Kato Busulwa, a sports journalist with Salt Media and Joan Mulungi tied the knot two years ago at Redeemed Church Makerere. The couple shares more about their wedding with CHRISTINE KATENDE.
How would you describe your wedding day?
Joseph: My wedding was a success given the kind of troubles I went through during the preparations. My family was against a wedding before my late father’s last funeral rites, saying it is an abomination in the Buganda culture. It was challenging because I was not ready to postpone the already communicated date to in-laws and friends. Despite the disorganization and confusion, we came to terms and the family function was completed a few weeks before my wedding. The day happened without any hindrances.
How did you meet?
Joseph: We met at Salt Media in 2016, dated for seven months before we got married. Joan had come for internship. We became friends and later fell in love. Joan had a very high level of self-respect and was God-fearing.
What attracted you to Joseph?
Joan: I saw my father in him; he is patient, kind, hardworking, committed and respects himself. I have also realised the great love he has for his family.
Why did you decide to have the reception at the university?
Joseph: I decided to use the university gardens for the reception given the accessibility, and the fact that it would accommodate my guests no matter the number. We had initially invited 500 people but the numbers shot by 200. We, however, managed to cater for all of them. This was possible because we bought the food in plenty and let the service provider prepare it. We spent about Shs2.5m.
How much did you spend on yourself?
Joseph: I bought a white and black suit from friends of God Garments at Shs700,000. Two pairs of shoes at Shs550,000. The changing attire cost Shs200,000. The other accessories; tie, socks, the shirt cost Shs250,000.
Joan: I hired a pure white Cinderella gown from Face Bridals at Shs700,000. I had the changing dress tailored at Shs300,000. I used Julius Hair for the salon and he charged me Shs550,000. The two pairs of shoes and other accessories cost Shs500,000.
Why did you go for a white gown of all colours?
Joan: I went in for white because it is a sign of purity and I was entering a new union.
Who were those people on the entourage?
Joseph: Peter Waswa Nsereko, my twin brother was my best man, I had friends for groomsmen.
Joan: Susan Makula Nantaba was my maid of honour and my six were friends for the bride’s maids.
Which cars did you use in the bridal convoy?
Joseph: We had five cars but different types including; three Toyota Wish cars, a Toyota Harrier and a Mercedes Benz.
What excited you most on your wedding day?
Joseph: When the pastor announced us husband and wife. We hugged because I could not kiss her in church. Also, the fact that my mother witnessed this milestone was great.
Joan: Seeing a smile on my parents’ and my husband’s face was awesome. I was so happy for God had answered my prayers.
Were you disappointed in any way?
Joseph: Despite a few challenges, like my pressure which raised from time to time and the secular music played, everything was okay.
Joan: The deejay played secular music instead of the gospel that we had preferred. It was so embarrassing given the fact most of the guests were born again Christians, including re-known pastors.
What could have contributed to the disappointments you got?
Joseph: Having received an offer of settling music at a relatively low cost. I trusted the person who alleged to know a good deejay but it is after I got disappointed that I realised why I needed to meet this deejay and probably select or discuss the kind music I wanted to be played.
Joan: I partly believe because we never met the deejay before, the money was paid through a friend.
What is your prayer given the two years you have been married?
Joseph: May God take away anything that might lead us into divorce. My prayer is to see my family grow and us living a happy life.
Joan: I pray that God helps me keep our vows. I do not want to be a disappointment to God, my children and the society. We are role models to many.
Any advice to those getting married soon?
Joseph: Marriage is beautiful, it helps you grow and become responsible. It is better to get committed to one person than living a reckless life.
Joan: Do not be too excited to wear that white gown, marriage is about being ready in mind, ready to love, respect and commit to that one man for life. Get married and make it work.
How was your honeymoon?
Joseph: Our honeymoon was affected given my kind of job. We planned and had a vacation three months after the wedding.
How important was premarital counselling?
Joseph: We had counselling sessions for a month and I learnt a lot from the different sessions, I remember the counsellor talking about a woman being the weaker sex, and this has helped me deal appropriately with my wife. Among other things, he emphasised good communication and how it keeps or kills marriage.
Joan: Respect in marriage. You cannot claim to love a man without respecting him. Being submissive, understanding and patient are among the endless things I was taught. However, everything in marriage is two way.
Did you have any debt after the wedding?
Joseph: We had about Shs2.5m for videography and decoration but it was cleared days after the wedding.