By Maria Immaculate Owechi
A South African man was invited to his friend’s wedding, but opted not to attend, due to certain circumstances. Since he failed to notify the bride, the man got the surprise of his life when he received an unexpected message from her.
A South African radio station YFM last week shared the scenario via Twitter and the man in question was under the Twitter user @Mthaux.
The message read, “Hi babe. Highly disappointed that you didn’t come to the wedding. I hope there’s a good reason for that.”
The radio station was asking its viewers if this was fair when the bride added, “The problem is that your seat came with costs and now we need you to supplement the costs because you didn’t arrive.”
The bride said that her friend’s actions had financial implications and she was transferring the costs to him.
She wrote, “Roughly its cost about Shs349, 562 (R1500) per seat. Please see the account details below.”
The tweet sparked off a heated debate with differing opinions of those who agreed and disagreed with the fairness of the message.
Some users agreed with the bride saying that couples make a lot of financial losses if their guests don’t turn up for the wedding they budgeted for.
One user shared his experience. He wrote, “I Went to a wedding a few years back where 2 tables were empty and other tables didn’t have the 10 people allocated. The loss was massive as payment was per head. All because of failure to RSVP early and not attending. People must be charged!”
Another added, “It’s completely unfair to get someone to incur a cost, then you RSVP, only for them to disappear on the day. Venues charge per head so the bride/groom is actually out of pocket now. So the payment must be done.”
“Weddings are very expensive, especially the exclusive ones. Venues charge you by seats, catering charge you per number of guests…. so if you RSVP’d then you’ve got to attend. This person has every right to ask for their money,” another user added.
On the other hand, some other twitter users disagreed with the bride’s message.
One tweeted, “This person could have at least waited to find out WHY the guest couldn’t attend. If it’s a valid reason… then no.”
Another wrote inquiring, “Why must you pay for a wedding that isn’t yours and u were invited. Was he made aware that being invited came with costs? Is that even your friend?”
“Don’t invite me to your wedding and then ask me for money when I don’t pitch. You were going to pay for it anyway. FOH,” another Twitter user added.
“No it’s not fair… if even more people than planned came to your wedding, you will still bear the cost. Why would you make people pay for your wedding? Rather do not have a wedding if you will be worried about doing debt collection after it because you incurred expenses,” another added.