When it comes to important questions in life, “Will you marry me?” tends to take the cake. If you are considering popping this all-important question, there are a few things you should consider first.
Be confident the answer will be yes
While you may want the proposal itself to be a surprise, you certainly do not want the idea that you two could one day be married to come as a surprise.
Make sure marriage is something you have talked about, preferably more than once and understand the importance of timing. If your partner has made it clear she or he wants to accomplish certain things before they would ever even consider marriage, proposing prematurely can feel like a slap in the face (and like you have not listened to or respected their wishes very well). No matter how excited you may be about proposing, it takes two to tango. Be confident that your partner is on the same page before you pop the question.
Start saving for a ring
Once you are sure you want to propose and are confident your partner will accept, the next step is perhaps the biggest of them all, saving for a ring. Start by figuring out what kind of ring your partner wants. You should have a clear idea of their preferred cut, setting, and metal. Then, know how much you should spend on an engagement ring and set a clear, realistic budget.
From there, set a goal and start saving. From health problems to car issues, life has a knack for throwing unexpected financial hurdles at us at the most inopportune times. So, saving for an engagement ring might take longer than you originally expected.
Talk to people who matter
This is an absolute must. Know whether or not you need to ask for your partner’s hand in marriage and, if so, who you need to speak to. Separated parents can make things tricky, so do your best to ensure everyone feels included.
While tradition says to ask the dad if your partner has parents who are not on speaking terms or additional step parents to consider, solely speaking to his or her father might not be the best solution. The last thing you want to do is start your engagement out on bad terms with your future in-laws.
Understand the hard-to-navigate aspects of your partner’s family and make sure you consider everyone your partner would want considered in the process. From there, make sure you are prepared to answer any questions you might be asked. And, lastly, you do not want to seem unprepared or, worse, flippant. Ensure you have some clear talking points prepared.