By Rashim Nabanja
Planning for a wedding or introduction ceremony has never been easy. This is the time when a couple has to stick together and combine their efforts to make sure that everything turns out to their best. However, there may come a situation where you need to step up and make things happen without the physical presence of your partner.
On December 9, 2017, Conrad Sebuccu and Evelyn Ndagire Sebuccu had their introduction ceremony at Evelyn’s parents’ home in Mukono and just a week later, they exchanged their vows at St. Augustine Chapel Makerere.
The success and beautiful turnout of this couple’s ceremonies may make it hard for one to believe that everything was planned with the couple a thousand miles apart.
The couple shared their story with My Wedding.
How they met
Conrad and Evelyn first met at a wedding meeting, were Evelyn’s friend was set to get married to Conrad’s brother. The two talked briefly but met again at the actual wedding where Evelyn was one of the maids and Conrad was the best man.
Conrad managed to get hold of Evelyn’s contact and the two started communicating which eventually led to their dating. The two had a beautiful relationship and according to Evelyn, Conrad was the perfect man who always made his intentions clear. After a year of dating, Conrad decided to propose.
Around January 2017, the two agreed to make things formal but there was one thing in the way, Conrad was overseas. However, they couldn’t let this stop their plans.
They had to make an arrangement on how they were going to make things happen so they decided on how they were going to plan for their ceremonies without the physical presence of each other.
The first thing they did was setting the dates of their ceremonies.
Conrad and Evelyn decided they wanted to have their introduction and wedding at the end of the year, which was in December, so they had themselves a whole 10 months to make things work.
Being from Buganda, they had to follow the right procedures but since the groom was away, the couple decided to talk to their parents about it and it was agreed that the kukyala was going to happen in the absence of Conrad.
The kukyala was set to take place on March 26, 2017, but by then, Conrad would still be out of the country so a few of his relatives were the ones to represent him during the entire visit.
Both the couples’ families had agreed on the kukyala happening without the presence of the groom and on the day of the visit, everything went on smoothly.
They however agreed that when the groom was back in the country, he had to visit Evelyn’s senga (paternal aunt) for recognition.
Preparing for the kwanjula and wedding
After the kukyala, the two started talking about their hopes, expectations and the budget for the two ceremonies.
They also agreed on the major things like which church they wanted to wed in, the number of people they wanted to invite, how much they wanted to spend and when to start the meetings.
The couple also talked about the things they considered important to their families when it came to the ceremonies and with this, they set a goal.
They agreed to at least cover 50% of the wedding and introduction even before the meetings could begin.
“Conrad sent me money every month to cover some of the items before the meetings that we had set for October,” says Evelyn.
The couple kept communicating through Skype and Watsapp, “I had to talk to Conrad before covering or deciding on anything. We had to first reach an agreement so I had to be very flexible in everything I did.”
Evelyn adds that Conrad’s relatives were very helpful when it came to some shopping that had to be done earlier. She had help from one of Conrad’s relative, Angella Mukasa who helped a lot with some of the service providers since it was a whole new experience for her.
“The decorator for both functions was my cousin and I was very positive about her services,” Evelyn shares
She also adds that another cousin offered to cater for their cakes which also eased on the pressure she had.
Her relatives, on the other hand, were helpful when it came to the preparation of the introduction ceremony.
Choosing the outfits
According to Evelyn, everything went on smoothly with kwanjula outfits but when it came to those of the wedding, they had differences when it came to the bride’s gown, “Conrad wanted me to choose a pure white gown but I preferred an off white gown.”
However, after different trials, Evelyn decided to order both her gown and changing dress from abroad since, among those that were available, none fitted her taste.
“My gown cost Shs1.5 million and the changing dress cost Shs1.2 million.”
Evelyn’s mum had offered to cater for everything that had to do with her dress code, both for the wedding and kwanjula which made her feel much more ease knowing that part was fully covered.
As for Conrad, Evelyn says he had plans to buy his suits from overseas so he sent pictures for her to see whether she loved his taste.
The couple also had their rings shipped in from Congo with the help of Conrad’s brother.
By the time the meetings started, Conrad and Evelyn had covered most of the essentials so there was less to discuss.
“Due to Conrad’s absence, his meetings took place at his home and were carried on by his relatives well as I also had introduction meetings at home with my relatives,” says Evelyn.
Thursdays were then chosen as the meeting days with friends which Evelyn admits helped her collect some extra money that they added to their savings.
By the time Conrad came back at the end of November, many of the preparations had been finalized and they only held one meeting with the organizing committee to see the success of the introduction and wedding ceremonies.
Conrad also had to go and visit the senga few days to the introduction so that she could recognize him.
The couple finally held their introduction at Evelyn’s parents’ home in Mukono and with a budget of Shs25 million, everything went on smoothly.
On December 16, 2017, the couple proceeded to St. Augustine Chapel Makerere where they exchanged their vows and later proceeded to Bishop Hanlon gardens in Nsambya for their reception.
According to Evelyn, the wedding cost them about Shs28 million.
Evelyn says, the long-distance made it hard to agree on some things which was one of the barriers faced during the preparations.
On the day of the wedding, they also received one car less than what they had ordered for so they had to utilize the three the best way they could.
The couple advises those intending to wed to always manage their expectations when it comes to wedding ceremonies and never to let simple things ruin their day.