By Joan Salmon
Weddings can be a costly venture and while everyone says money is scarce, people want to have the best on that day. As such, ways to get money and achieve one’s dream are devised. One of these is wedding meetings and one way to know that someone is getting married is when you get a message inviting you for their wedding meeting. While it has worked well over the years, people have complained about how some of these meetings seem like extortion avenues. The argument stems from the fact that the couple lists items such as socks and one wonders that if they could not afford such, then how are they going to afford items such as decor? While that is still an issue, then there comes introduction and the latest being kukyala meetings. Most people do not take this addition kindly as they wonder if the two [Kukyala and Kwanjula] are not majorly family functions that do not need outside involvement.
While the noise regarding those still rages on, then comes the wedding meeting launches. Asking people what they think about this new development in wedding preparation, Alexander Mercy wonders what a wedding launch is. Indeed, the terms are getting very many and it is easy for meaning to get lost.
That aside, from observation, during a wedding meeting launch, a couple looks at giving so as to receive from those that come. That is why you will see them say, for example, that the barbecue is on the house. That way, they draw in their audience and it makes it easy for the people to reciprocate.
The wedding meeting launch, like its name suggests is usually done for the wedding. However, the issue of meeting launches seems to also be getting out of hand as we are not only seeing wedding meetings being launched for a kuhingiras, and kwanjulas too. So, should one have a meeting launch for their introduction as well as for their wedding?
Eva Najjuko believes that there is no need for a launch at all. “A ceremony can be fundraised for without a launch.”
Angel Mayanja is also not for idea of several launches saying that it is a sign of begging.
Ann Mumbeja brings a bit of irony to the table saying, let them also have a pregnancy launch. “If they want to let us in on everything that is going on in their lives, this is also a milestone they might as well launch a meeting for.”
Loy Dianah Kiwumulo does not seem surprised that someone will hold a meeting launch for both their introduction and wedding. “If they are doing introduction showers, what stops them from an introduction meeting launch?”
With people looking at launches as a way to pool the most amount of money towards the function, Noah Owomugisha is disgusted by the idea of people thinking meeting launches are the way to go. “The problem is that some of us plan to make parties using money from other people’s pockets.” He wonders why someone with little or no money would want a big kwanjula. “Owing to the ambitious desire, they will launch to fundraise. Then they realize they are very broke but a wedding must happen hence another launch.” Owomugisha adds that one will understand exactly why the launch and shower was arranged when they attend and fail to give the organisers the needed money or it’s equivalent.
Kasirye John Paul laughs at people who hold launches for every event saying they can only reap if these are done upcountry. “People in Kampala don’t have time and money. One will pledge and that is the last time you hear from them. These people really count their monies.”
With the developments that have been birthed by the COVID19 pandemic, Winnie Nampima is glad to say that such stress is behind us. “No more stress, scientific weddings now.”
Gillian Khom is also appalled at the thought of someone launching for all their events. “I hope the lockdown will teach you enough lessons. Apart from money becoming even more scarce, you do not have to have much to have your wedding functions. Work within your means.”
David Mushanga is so amused that someone can go as far as having several launches in the name of having a big ceremony. “It’s 2020, just launch everything, even your birthday.”
Cadeau Mbabazi believes launches were okay until it became a competition. “People are bound to launch everything.”
Shallon Ninsima believes the trend is going overboard. “We just need scientific weddings. It should become a national law.”
That said, if you must have a launch for your function, Angel Mayanja advises that you do not invite many people yet the pocket is insufficient or spend a lot yet you can use the money for the wedding. That said, arrange it in a place that is not so costly for you. ”Do not overly dwell on unfulfilled pledges or keep people for so long lest they get bored.”
However, Rose Walusimbi shares an even easier way to do it. “Make a list of your friends and family (from both sides), send them a message- we know how busy you are, let your contribution represent and speak for you. Then send them mobile money numbers.” That way, you would have dealt away with spending in the name of launching your function yet you need the money for the event.