By Rashim Nabanja
Love, relationships and marriage are a cycle that one can never joke with. No matter how committed you are in other things, society may never consider you to be complete until you find a companion to share your journey with. When we put our mind to finding love, everyone usually has their preference. You might find that what one person is looking for in a partner doesn’t actually work for the other.
My Wedding caught up with a few people and they got to share what they look out for in a partner;
Nsereko Arafat, Administrative Clerk
The most crucial of all qualities to me is finding someone that is faithful and religious. I would really love it to be with someone that is faithful to our relationship and is not going to be involved in any cheating scandals. As for religion, I believe a relationship can be easier and understandable if you are both a religious couple especially if you belong to the same faith.
Then the other things that I would really look out for are some one that is calm and peaceful. A quarrelsome partner is really unbearable.
Also finding someone that you share ideas with and is developmental really makes life easier. It wouldn’t be fair for me to come up with positive ideas by myself. I would love someone that seats me down and we find ways on how to live a beautiful successful life. Beauty too is good but it depends on how you are looking at it. I don’t support the idea of going in for a beautiful face because we see these every day and everyone is beautiful in their own way.
It is rather better you go in for the inside beauty. Listen to your heart and see beyond the pretty face. What is the point of having someone with a beautiful face but is very indisciplined?
However, I wouldn’t ignore the sexual part too. For example in Uganda, girls are always prepared by their ‘sengas’ on how to treat a man before they get married, so I at least want a woman that has gone through this phase so that we are able to satisfy each other’s sexual needs.
Aisha Nyangoma, married Procurement Practitioner
The top things I was looking out for in a man were capability, commitment and partnership. I was looking for someone whose character matches mine especially in terms of beliefs, values and principles.
My husband and I pretty much clicked immediately because he never questioned why I chose certain paths and why I do things in a particular way. I found this to be very much peaceful. He understood where I come from, my visions and aspirations as a young career woman. What is better in life than finding someone that understands you and is ready to spend the rest of their life with you?
I also wanted a partner that would stand by me when I win and when I make the craziest decisions without giving me eye rolls and I believe I found him.
Matovu Eliab, Married Professional teacher
The first thing I considered before even looking out for who my partner might be was the fact that I was not looking for just a wife but also the mother to my children. Children are seen as gifts or future investments and also things we adore.
Our families and where we come from have a lot of impact on how we turn out as people in future therefore, I believed in finding a woman that was raised right and is adored back at home. This has a lot of impact on the values and morals my wife is to instill in my children and also how she interacts with them.
The other important factor is religion. It is always best to have someone with similar religion and beliefs but if it happens otherwise, it is important that I consider how respectful or religious she and her family are at large.
Finding a marriage partner is different from getting a companion, lover or girlfriend. It goes beyond lust and pleasures that is why in the past, it was done by our parents and not us the children.
And when we speak of beautiful features in and out, they keep varying depending on the one choosing. However on my side, I prefer a woman that is tall, slender, brown, and curvaceous. For inner beauty, I would like someone with a compassionate heart, loving, generous and patient.
The other values I wouldn’t put aside are having someone that is hardworking, industrious, tidy, organized and also welcoming.
Senfuka Sophia, married, nurse
My first goal was finding someone that is religious, someone that is strongly attached to his religion and does not forget Allah. Then the rest were someone that was trustworthy, promising, patient, someone that works hard to see a better future for himself and his family.
Someone that will understand me and also a good decision maker. Most of these I found in my loving husband and even more. He is beautiful, respective, religious just like I wanted and really hardworking. I am glad I found him ‘Masha’Allah’
Sophia Nabaggala, Law student
Being a maiden, it is only natural for me to yearn for a serious man in my life. Firstly a religious man is goals to me. I am certain that a man who understands and believes in God will surely treat me right. A man that knows and fears his God will definitely love, be patient, care, respect, guide, protect, understand and support their spouse.
Communication and transparency also go hand in hand. Transparency entails honesty. He should also be able to guide and support me. A partner is someone’s number one fan.
A hardworking and innovative man is also very admirable.
Joshua Ndashimye, businessman
I guess the right person I consider to be my dream partner is someone that is really understanding. Someone, I will explain something to and they try to understand my reasons behind making a certain decision or going through a particular direction in life.
I also love funny people. I don’t want someone who is too quiet. They can be quiet in the presence of other people but when it comes to me, I want someone that is going to go extra limits and talk about anything, not being boring.
Am also not comfortable with short-tempered people, I want a person that is really calm and does not just go off when triggered by something small.
Intelligence, religious and being faithful are crucial. I believe this kind of partner is irresistible and we can have the best life together.
Vivian Evelyn, nurse
I personally want someone that is loyal, understanding, and loving.
Understanding and loving partners make life easy. Someone that will listen to what I say. That is what real love is about.
Physical attractiveness matters but not that much.
Although a person you love may change due to different factors, character rarely changes.