David first clapped eyes on Deborah at his sister’s wedding in 2013. They would meet again three years later as she was joining university, become friends and get married three years after.
David Kalema is a businessman dealing in fashion at Nabukeera Plaza and Deborah Nassali Kalema is a lab scientist at Makerere University Department of Pharmacology in Mulago. They held their wedding ceremony on 28th June, 2020 at Fairway Hotel in Kampala.
David tells their story
I first saw her at my sister’s wedding in 2013. Ofcourse she didn’t pick interest in, although I liked her right away. Then in 2016, we met again at Makerere University as she was applying for her degree. We became good friends. We started dating during the second semester of her first year.
There was no engagement because immediately after her final exams Debbie travelled to Dubai for two weeks. It was the first time since we started dating that I was away from her for a long time and we communicated less. I really missed her. She has always been my full-time day maker.
The day I picked her from the airport I told her “I want to marry you.” Her answer was “Where’s the ring?” I didn’t have it. I told her I have no ring but bought you cake because I know she is a cake lover. She said, “okay, put the cake on my finger.” We both laughed about it. She actually never took me seriously at first until I asked her to set a date the for the pre-visit.
Planning the Kwanjula
Our introduction was held on Feb 22, 2020.
We involved our friends and family in the planning process, which made everything easy. They shared ideas and set up meetings. We actually never had serious challenges putting the kwanjula together because from the beginning we knew we were actually green when it comes to these traditional events. So we involved our elders more.
Planning the wedding
Unlike the kwanjula, planning our wedding was really tricky. After the introduction we set our wedding date to 28th June as we bought time to financially reset ourselves because we wanted a big function. And then came Covid-19, which disrupted every plan we had. We had to plan for a scientific wedding.
We had just two weeks to plan. We also had to cut the number of guests to have at the event, which meant letting some of our loved ones know that they couldn’t witness our big day. Meeting and engaging with service providers was also a challenge.
Despite everything that was going on, we actually had so much fun. Our guests had such a vibe, it was evident that they hadn’t had a good party in a long time. We danced from the time we got to the reception till the end. The fact that we had just family and a few close friends at the event, we weren’t nervous at all.
Our dream is to grow together as we build each other and of course start a family.
To future couples planning to get married, I would love to say that life after the wedding day is more important than the event. You need to spend wisely. Actually, I think this scientific wedding thing should be the new normal even after the pandemic. It’s a real life-saver.
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Photography: Drimax Photography