By Joan Salmon
Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit, one quote goes. Allan Kasule did not want such a life hence keeping his eyes open for that woman that would warm his heart enough for him to take her on as his soulmate, helpmate and wife.
When he laid his eyes on Doreen Nabukalu on August 25, 2018, he knew he had been handed more than a pot of gold, “We met at SDA Church, Mukono where we had gone for a worship camp meeting. In her, I saw a God-fearing woman who is also respectful, beautiful and charming. These virtues and more drew me to her and with time, I could not imagine not having her as my own.”
Intent to mark his territory, three weeks into dating Kasule wanted to visit Nabukalu’s Senga, “I didn’t want to give anyone an opportunity to vibe her and I wanted to do things fast,” he laughed at the memory.
However, she asked that they give it some time. “I felt bad but then, I understood her point because we had only dated for three weeks,” Kasule shared. Allowing themselves time to learn more about each other, time to visit Senga sure did come, last year in November. “We decided to take our relationship to another level with a kukyala on November 24, 2019,” Nabukalu smiles.
Reminiscing about the day, Kasule said he had not fully sunk his teeth into preparing for the visit. “I was on pressure that very morning because I because I was short on money but God blessed me through it all and we got things on time to make our journey to Senga’s place in Ndese, Mukono.”
Nabukalu said the day begun with lots of tension because the service providers did not arrive as early as planned. “Nonetheless, they all made it and delivered as promised. My mind also ran to how my bae would look and when I was called to greet them, I looked for him before kneeling down. When I saw him, everything else seemed to fade away,” she smiles smitten by love.
Nabukalu adds that it was a simple yet beautiful day and she was so thrilled by her clothes because she felt really smart. The happy and contented bride also composed a song for her fiancé which removed any doubt, if there was, that the two were meant for each other.
On August 23, the couple took another step to have Kasule ‘born’ at Nabukalu’s parents’home hence a Kwanjula ceremony.
To make this happen, Nabukalu worked with her matron, Irene Kiyimba and Anissa Sembatya, a friend who accompanied her whenever she went to meet service providers. “I almost knew all service providers as I had worked with most of them during the kukyala, save for the videography and photography providers thus tried my best to get the very best from them.” For example, she got the attires from Jaznai bridals at Zai plaza. Kasule also went to familiar territory. “I got my suit from a friend called Jacob.”
On the day of the introduction, at Nabukalu’s parent’s home, preparations were in high gear and the bride woke up at 4am. “I started singing my favourite songs in gratitude because everything was covered and I was only waiting to see my bae,” she smiles.
Unlike the kukyala, most purchases were done on Kasule’s side. “The day, as expected of such a day, begun with a little tension as we tried to ensure all was well. Only one item was pending but I didn’t mind about that, all I wanted was to see my queen. And when she came out for the very first time, my heart settled,” he blushed.
Clad in peach, white and lilac attires to depict the theme colours of the day, the bride and her entourage were stunning. “Since it was a ‘scientific’ one, I chose the entourage from my close family and friends,” Nabukalu says of those that accompanied her throughout the day.
Ecstatic about her day, not even the drizzle would dampen Nabukalu’s moods although she almost cried at the thought of what a downpour would do. “I remembered it was my day and I had to smile,” she says of a day she describes as massive because they got everything they desired.
The couple was indeed grateful to God for the day that Kasule pulled out dance moves that left Nabukalu amazed and laughing. “I had never seen him dance like that before. He was indeed so happy the whole day.” You cannot blame the brother because he had seen his angel. “When I saw her coming out for the first time… Jesus… She was looking so beautiful and smart… She was like an angel.”
Angel reveals that due to the scientific nature of the function, her family spent less on food since people were fewer. She also says the chairs rented were fewer, ” Curfew also made us start the function from10 am to 4pm. We had to rush the function.”
Kasule on the other side says COVID did not deter his plan and he brought gifts to the family as earlier planned.
Although Kasule would have wanted to have more people than 70 in attendance. The two are thankful that all turned out well. With her senga’s advice, “Stay prayerful, respect your husband and understand him,” Nabukalu is ready to sail the marriage boat with her husband.