By Maria Immaculate Owechi
When attending a wedding ceremony, it’s traditional to bring a gift for them as something to kick-start their new journey.
Wedding etiquette experts also advise that it’s good manners for the couple to send thank you messages to the guests for attending their event and gifting them.
Kathy Manson from Hamilton, Canada in 2013 shared about how she felt bad when she didn’t receive a warm thank you from a couple for the gift she sent.
When she inquired from the bride, Kathy received a rude surprise when the bride claimed she was unimpressed with the gift she received.
Kathy went ahead and shared on Reddit a photo of the hamper of treats she had sent to the couple as a gift. Inside the hamper were items such as sweets, a jar of marshmallow fluff, biscuits and crisps which were accompanied by a card which read, “Life is delicious –enjoy.”
Despite the story and photo being several years old, it resurfaced on Reddit this week and it caused a heated debate among its users.
According to The Hamilton Spectator, the bride only identified as Laura sent to her a message that read, “I want to thank you for coming to the wedding on Friday. I’m not sure if it’s the first wedding you have been to, but for your next wedding…people give envelopes.”
The bride said that the gift hamper couldn’t account for the money she spent preparing the reception for the guest and her date. The letter in continuation read, “I lost out on $200 (Shs73.826) covering you and your date’s plate…and got fluffy whip and sour patch kids in return. “Just a heads-up for the future.”
Kathy disagreed that her gift wasn’t thoughtful and hit back at Laura saying, “It’s obvious you have the etiquette of a twig, I couldn’t care less of what you think about the gift you received.”
‘Normal’ people would welcome anything given, you wanna have a party, you pay for it, DON’T expect me to, “she added.
The bride explained more that Kathy was one of only two guests who did not give her money.
Speaking at the time, Kathy stood her ground that she didn’t think her gift was thoughtless and it seems Reddit users also today agree with her.
Laura was branded as rude and lacking manners in the comment section of the story.
One person said, “What planet is this horrible bride living on?? If you don’t like or want the gift, then re-gift the damn thing and move on with your life, you rude hag. You do not write a snarky email to the guest informing them that they should have been aware that they were costing the bride x amount of money and their gift didn’t measure up.”
Another wrote: “I was taught to accept and appreciate all gifts no matter what they were worth. As already said, going to a wedding is often quite costly for a guest…travelling expenses, new outfit, plus a gift. She should have been grateful people liked her enough to go to the effort… mean old hag
Another chipped in, “True, it can actually be costly to attend a wedding too as a guest, so if you need the money from the guests more than just having them celebrate your day then have a cheaper but meaningful wedding rather than a wedding for show!!! However, if you are the rude selfish bride like this having the wedding-then just be thankful people were prepared to turn up!!!!”
“If you are that desperate for money don’t blow $200 per person on a fancy wedding you don’t need,” another stated.
Someone else replied, “The bride may not realize but it actually can get pretty damn costly to put baskets together.”
So to you My wedding, do you think the bride was right to honestly tell off a guest that she was unimpressed with her gift or not?