By Beatrice Nakibuuka
David Victor Kizebwana met Trisha Ariel Mirembe at church. Victor taught Trisha how to play the guitar every Sunday from 4pm to 8pm in February 2017. And three months down, she could play a song. The two became friends and later a couple. The couple shared their story.
A friend, who also turned out to be Victor’s best man invited Trisha to church for a thanksgiving service. “While I was seated in church a young man dressed sharply (to my taste) walked past me. I stared at him from head to toe and he had sideburns…” Trisha recalls.
The service ended after 5pm and the friend who had invited her got busy so, he asked that this man who had taken her attention, give her company.
“I suppressed my feelings but he was irresistible. I started disliking him and suspected he was probably seeing someone,” she says.
The two had lunch together. “I learnt that he was a pianist and guitarist. For long, I had wanted to learn how to play the guitar and asked him to teach me. My intention of getting close to him for intimacy had now faded because he had told me he was not interested in any relationship,” she says.
When Trisha asked for his contact so they would keep in touch for the guitar lessons, Victor only exchanged a Facebook name.
“I rubbed the crush out of my mind and we became friends. I started my guitar lessons in February 2017. I even moved into another relationship that did not work out, but we moved on as friends,” she says.
In March 2018, Victor said he wanted to date Trisha.
“I had a best friend and I realised that she had all that I needed in a woman. She is down to earth, flexible and all round. She can relate with different situations. She can choose to be classy when she is with classy people, and stoop when the situation requires her to help someone who is vulnerable,” he says.
According to Trisha, Victor is a man that blends with fellow men but it is hard for him when it comes to women.
“Victor is not ‘loose’ [one that just talks to every woman]. This gives me security. When we were just friends, he respected me and when he is angry, he speaks calmly. He is also a man of his word. When we started dating, he said he was going to marry me after two years. I am a go-getter and he compliments me.”
They dated for a year and he proposed on April 20, 2019. They had kukyaala [introduction] two months later.
“There was nothing special about these dates but because I do not do things under pressure, I give myself time to plan. I ensured the dates were comfortable for everyone. I was mindful about the families and on August 29, we had a scientific introduction with 80 guests,” Victor says.
The couple had planned to have their wedding in May and their budget was Shs25m. When Covid-19 struck, many people were financially affected so they also had to revise the budget to Shs12m for a scientific wedding. They had saved 60 percent of this and the rest, the friends and family contributed.
It took them two months to prepare and they chose service providers known to them. It was easier to negotiate the prices that were affordable to them.
Trisha got her gown from Sister’s Bridals at Shs1m and her changing dress was tailor-made at Shs400,000. A friend made them a white and gold five-tier cake at Shs500,000.
The Kizebwanas paid Shs1m for the reception venue and got a plate of food at Shs45,000. Their pastor offered them his car to transport the entourage and Victor hired a jeep in which he drove his wife after they were wedded.
“My wedding day was memorable. I cried throughout because I could not believe the day had finally come. We had planned for earlier dates in April and May for the introduction and the wedding but because of Covid-19, we postponed,” says Trisha.
She was happy seeing Victor wait for her at the pulpit and her father walking her down the aisle yet he is Muslim. Her best moment was exchanging vows and getting their marriage certificate.
“Victor then drove me in a jeep for the photoshoot and then to the reception. This was a surprise,” says Trisha.
For Victor, “It was a day I waited for so long and it finally had come”. They encouraged each other until the D-day and he felt complete.
Because of their love for unique things, the couple had their photoshoot in a stone quarry. At the reception, the speeches were emotional. Victor’s best surprise was “when my lifetime date (read wife) sang me a song. She has an angelic voice.”
For the days they have been together after the wedding, Trisha says marriage is a thing everyone should look forward to.
“As long as you are married to a friend, it is easy to work things out and communication is easy.”