By Beatrice Nakibuuka.
Robert Singoma and Evacate Ithungu attended the same high school but lost contact until seven years later. Robert had loved Evacate from Senior One and his feelings towards her kept strong through the seven years.
Robert Singoma and Evacate Ithungu met in 2007 at Rwenzori High School as Senior One classmates. “I tried making friends with many students but not with boys because I was shy. One day during a lunch break, Robert’s friends asked me to join them at the back of the class where they sat. When I got there, one of them pointed at Robert saying: ‘This guy is in love with you’. I walked away,” she recalls.
To Evacate, Robert must have been a young committed pursuer because he always followed the group of day scholars. To date, she is baffled by his courage. “But what did such a young boy know about love?”
He then changed schools when they were in Senior Three and they lost physical contact until their Senior Six vacation in 2013.
Robert would hear about Evacate from friends and in 2014, she received a courtesy call from him after getting her contact from her friends. They henceforth continued chatting and later on became friends.
On Valentine’s Day in 2015, he called to confess his love for Evacate, but she took it for a joke.
“He was too young to be my boyfriend. I never thought I would date him because I had a list of qualities for my dream man. These included; five years older than me, a doctor, employed, among others.”
In June the same year, they had a 10-minute date after Robert insisted that they meet after seven years. Robert was a student at Fort portal School of Clinical Medicine and since he was planning to travel to Kasese for recess, they met at the bus park in Fort Portal. He was already waiting, and they talked for about 10 minutes before the bus set off. He asked why Evacate would not visit him.
After that meeting, they kept in touch and thereafter Robert frequently asked that they meet again since he was staying in Kasese at that time.
“On August 16, 2015, when she agreed to meet me again, I made my move again. I professed my love for her and my intentions,” he recalls.
Evacate says she was impressed but did not say ‘yes’.
“I told him I was not ready for a relationship and he pestered me for the next three days until I said ‘yes’ on August 19.”
“My checklist had become useless, not because Robert did not meet the core qualities on that list, but because my heart told me he was the right man. I remember the day I told my friends at university that I was not single anymore, they got excited and asked me; where and what he was studying, if he had a job, etc. They were cold after Evacate explained that he was a diploma student at Fort Portal School of Clinical Medicine. Based on her level of education and course, that reaction was not news.
“ But that did not matter anymore because he had disarmed me.”
For Robert, it had to be Evacate because she was committed and prayerful. He recalls the dates they went to and she would read to him one or two scriptures before they started chatting.
“I belonged to the Fascinating Womanhood fellowship at Makerere University Kampala and we were told to pray for our husbands even before we met them. It is something that I took on and it paid off. My husband graduated and got a job in Kabale as a clinical officer in 2017 but he waited for me to graduate in January 2019. I also got a job in Kabale,” she says.
The Singomas had their introduction in December 2019, and had planned to have their give-away in April and thereafter wed in June, but the lockdown disrupted them since they live in a border district.
“We had to wait until the lockdown was eased on our district (Kasese). We thought we would hold a scientific wedding since it was more cost-effective but we had many friends that we did not want to leave out. Our reception had at least 100 guests,” he says.
The most exciting moment about their wedding day, Robert says was exchanging their marriage vows and the way they were welcomed at the reception.
“Our wedding day was perfect. I enjoyed every moment but my friends gave a breathtaking speech that got me crying,” Evacate recalls.
“Robert and I have had good and bad times, but we keep going. He brought a new chapter of happiness into my life and made me experience unconditional love. We grew from strangers to best friends who shared almost everything in our lives. I am grateful to him for always checking on me despite his busy schedule. I love and respect him so much.”
The Singomas had a budget of Shs12m on their wedding and they had saved half of this money while the rest of the contributions were given by their friends whom they contacted on a personal basis. They spent Shs1.2m on photography, Shs1m on a 12-tier white cake, Shs1m on décor, Shs2m on food and drinks. Then they paid Shs400,000 for the venue, a hotel hall, Shs700,000 on salon and make-up, Shs800,000 on the wedding gown, Shs 200,000 on church fees and Shs 500,000 on the rings.