By Esther Oluka
Ian Mark Kimanje, the founder of Film Garage North Studios, a production company and Emily Devries, a writer, story producer and researcher started their marital journey on August 26, 2017.
Emily, a Canadian, met Kimanje, a Ugandan, during a brainstorming meeting in Uganda where they discussed the nature of children in the Media Industry in both Africa and North America. Over time, the two fell in love, eventually getting married and starting a family in Canada.
So, how has marriage been so far?
Kimanje says he had no choice but to make some adjustments.
“Before getting married, I used to be the kind of man who would frequently travel to handle projects in different countries. But after exchanging vows, I had to slow down to invest energy and time in my marriage,” Kimanje says.
On the other hand, Devries, says it feels like they have been married much longer than three years. With two children, a production company, and a relationship to nurture, day to day life feels natural, most of the time. The couple, however, feel they are missing out on alone time because of the numerous responsibilities they have.
Life in Canada
Life in Canada has not entirely been smooth, especially for Kimanje.
“There are occasions where my wife is either treated differently (compared to him) or accorded more attention by people here,” he says.
According to Kimanje, there is assumption by some sections of white people that every black man they see on the street is dangerous.
“Just the other day, I was taking a walk with my wife and sons when suddenly a white man driving a truck slowed down and began uncomfortably looking at us. When my wife stared right back at him with concern, he sped away. We have encountered a number of similar drivers in the past,” Kimanje says.
And sometimes when the father of two is walking alone or out on a run, he notices some people deliberately avoiding him on the street. Devries says Canada has had its own fair of issues involving oppression and violence geared towards people of colour.
“It’s often harder to notice it here though because people will appear to be nice, yet, deep down, they aren’t,” she says.
And for such reasons, Devries says her husband is lately taking time to teach her and their children the significance and uniqueness of being a person of colour.
At some point in their marriage, Kimanje felt that his wife was thinking and making decisions on his behalf. “For example, there were times someone would ask me a question and then she proceeds to answer. I did not like it,” he says. Click to read more