By David Miringa
For those that are conversant with the streets of Twitter, you must know how hard crossing the bridge of #ItWillEndInTears is when it comes to finding love on Jack Dorsey’s social media platform. For those of us who might not be in the know of the terminology ‘It will end in tears’, the term is used to predict the not so good ending of the couples that show their love, affection, relationship progress on social media. We have seen as many relationships try to come up as we have seen them fade away in a single wind blow.
Most people used to find love in school, at parties, workplaces and so many areas which until of late never included social media. However, the narrative of where to meet someone you love seems to change as most of us spend most of our time on phones and the internet. The social media sites that have given birth to couples include but are not limited to Facebook, Twitter, Snap Chat and Instagram which are the most used social media platforms in the country and worldwide.
On the 10th day of November 2020, the Ugandan internet was served some tea as their own Phyllis Ainematsiko introduced Benjamin Aigirembabazi officially to her parents. The photos first found their way to the internet from Benjamin, with a very captivating caption, ’We closed the book of lamentations and opened the book of actions’, the theories of, if they could have met somewhere else were erased by Ainematsiko who again pulled of a very journalistic caption, ’I went to his DM for Business and came out with a husband, two souls one heart’
With @Phyllis_Shaine having 20.9K followers and @Benj_amin11 having 17K followers, it clearly shows that the couple have by far passed the Tweep zone to the Tweleb zone.
On the issues of how they started, how they kept it a secret and what plans they have, I sat down with the Bweyogerere based couple, so, let us find out.
Back to the beginnings.
Miss Aine Phyllis hails from Kamwenge district. A computer scientist who is passionate about entrepreneurship. The ever-jolly crafts bag maker who spreads her risks to the candle business and decorating bottle business, says she excels in entrepreneurship because of her diversified business skills. On the other hand, Benjamin is an electrical engineer who works with UMEME limited stationed in Gulu. They believe their diversity in work fields makes their lives enjoyable as they have a lot to learn from each other
On the DM Business that broke the silence
When Aine lost her phone, it was a trying moment for her. She then remembered Benjamin had tweeted about the same subject matter. It is then that she decided to send a direct message about her dilemma. Benjamin recommended her to his cousin who was in the phone tracking field. Later that day, Benjamin received a call from his cousin who described Aine as beautiful, Benjamin then arranged a meeting to find out and like they always say, the rest is history.
On the long-distance challenge
The couple started officially dating on the 5th day of January 2020. They believe that dating for a long time does not guarantee a successful marriage, it is sometimes a factor of finding the right person and the right seeds of greatness in someone, try to water them and the rest will work out. On the long-distance questions, trust and communication is key, emphasizes Phyllis. ‘’He always made an effort every weekend to travel to Kampala and lockdown was good for us, since we spent a lot of quality together,’’ she said.
On running a successful social media relationship
The newly engaged couple believes that taking the relationship off social media is key and the Facebook in-laws as they are always referred to do not need to be updated on a daily on every step of the relationship. Give yourselves time. When the right time comes, they will know. In case you get challenges, the same people posting ‘you were meant for each other’ are the people that will laugh at you and add something like, ’we saw that coming.’
On how to handle fame
When the news broke, the couple knew it would make rounds on Twitter since Twitter is family, but they had no idea that it would cross to mainstream media. So far, they have been booked for interviews, both radio, TV, and newspapers. However, much they would like to keep it low key, they equally love to inspire someone out there who might be at the crossroads of the same context in question. However, when the screenshots from their my wedding story crossed to different friends and Family WhatsApp groups, being famous became overwhelming but they are now picking up.
On what makes him tick
For Aine, it was his seriousness about life that swept her off her feet. He immediately told me that he was looking for a wife. He actually broke my dating break. Beyond that, he is still very caring, honest, truthful, financially and emotionally supportive.
On what makes her tick.
“Aine is a woman, not just a female, not just the other gender kind of a woman. She breathes air and exhales care. She is the missing link that brings stability to my world. She understands me, more than I understand myself sometimes, she never judges me, she motivates me on a daily and dares me to dream more. So, absolutely there is nothing more that I can ask from the Lord,” describes the smiling gentleman as the other party blushes with a thank you love.
The couple plans to walk down the church path straight to the alter by June 2021 in Mbarara. With Mbarara acting like the center stage for both families in terms of distance, the couple has already zeroed down to All Saints Church cathedral in Mbarara due to the attachments they have to it. With 200 people the now acceptable number of guests, the ever-holding hands love birds believe that is a relatively acceptable worst-case scenario number since they would love friends and family to be part of it.
As I set my foot off the ground, I could clearly see that the flourishing couple from their actions do not agree with Serena Gomez’ theory of ‘I needed to lose you to find me’. In fact, given A chance they would change it to, ‘I needed to lose me to find you’.
From the smiles that melt strangers’ hearts to the visible internal chemistry, the only question I was left to pose was for myself, ‘God When?’