The women’s Chama called me for a special meeting last Saturday. The agenda? Dwindling sex desire in marriages.
“It seems the longer we are in our marriages the less need we feel to be intimate,” the chairperson said in introducing the topic, “The older women seem to be living in sexless marriages,” she revealed.
“And it is not just our members who have lost desire,” shouted a member from the audience, “our husbands are equally turning their backs on us.” There were loud murmurs from the audience, prompting the chairperson to call for an order.
“If we do not get an immediate solution we may be headed for divorce,” the deputy chairperson shouted.
Changes in desire
I took to the podium to shed light on what I have considered an important topic over the years: how desire changes in long-term relationships and what couples need to do to keep the fire burning. Unless checked, intimacy tends to fall over the years. The main cause of this is the deterioration in what keeps the desire high in both men and women.
For men, desire is kept high by frequent intercourse, orgasm, and the ability to please their wives. As marriage advances, and with all the ups and downs of life, it may not always be possible to get down. Click to read more