1. Choose the right MC
Your Master of Ceremonies is more than just someone with a microphone, they set the pace and mood for your wedding. A poor choice can result in awkward jokes, off-colour comments, or confusion. Pick someone who understands your values, audience, and culture. If hiring a professional, attend one of their events beforehand or ask for a reference video.
2. Be budget-smart with your attire
Wedding outfits often come with emotional pressure and hefty price tags. But remember, you only wear them once. For grooms, choose shoes and a suit you can reuse for future formal events. A classic black or navy suit never goes out of style. Brides should avoid sweet-talking vendors swaying their decision. Choose a gown that fits well, flatters your body, and makes you feel confident, without breaking the bank.
3. Do not put a greedy person in charge of food
One of the worst complaints guests can make is, “We did not get enough to eat.” Avoid putting someone with a selfish streak or poor coordination in charge of catering logistics. Trust someone who understands fairness, quantity, and hospitality.
4. Share your playlist with the DJ
Your music should reflect you. Do not assume the DJ knows what you like. From your walk-in song to your dance floor hits, create and share a playlist that matches your taste and culture. Also, let them know what songs or genres to avoid.
5. Hire two photographers
A single photographer can miss moments due to equipment failure, fatigue, or unforeseen delays.
Hire at least two professionals or ensure there is a reliable backup. That way, you will capture everything, from the nervous smiles to the dance floor chaos.
6. Keep your wedding plans low-key
Vendors often hike prices when they hear the word “wedding.” Instead, say you are shopping for “an event” or “a party.” Keep the wedding label quiet until after price negotiations are done.
7. Do not borrow for a wedding expecting donations
It is tempting to assume guests will “cover costs” through their gifts. But do not build your budget on expectations. People may not give what you hoped, or anything at all. Plan based on what you can afford without borrowing.
8. Trust the person handling the money
Money can ruin relationships. Only assign financial duties to someone you deeply trust and who is good with accountability. Keep clear records and receipts. This helps avoid conflict later.
9. Book vendors early
Early bookings often come with discounts and peace of mind. The closer your date, the fewer options you have, and the higher the costs. Secure your key vendors (venue, caterer, photographer, makeup artist) months in advance.
10. Nothing is free
“Free” often lacks commitment. A friend who offers to bake your cake “as a gift” may cancel last minute. If you accept free help, get clarity on timelines, expectations, and what happens in case of emergencies. Otherwise, budget to pay professionals.
11. Understand the church’s doctrine
If you are getting married in a religious setting, take time to understand their requirements. This may include pre-marital counselling, attire guidelines, or order of service. Knowing early prevents embarrassing last-minute surprises.
12. Be punctual
Time is everything. Delaying the ceremony affects your guests, vendors, and venue time limits. Respect everyone’s efforts by sticking to the schedule. It shows maturity and consideration.
13. Your voice matters
It is your wedding, not your aunt’s, your mother’s, or your best friend’s. Listen to advice, but do not let others bulldoze your choices. Your happiness should be at the centre of the day.
14. Hire for competence, not familiarity
Your cousin may be a lovely person, but can they coordinate a wedding of 200 people? Do not assign roles out of pity, guilt, or obligation. Go with people who have experience and can deliver.
15. Marry for love, not pressure
People marry for all sorts of reasons: age, family pressure, pregnancy, status. But the foundation of marriage should be love, mutual respect, and shared vision. Pause and reflect: Why am I doing this? If your answer is not grounded in love, it is okay to rethink, even if invitations are already out.
