We have been married close to a year now. I love my wife very much but I have come to realise that she is messy and disorganised. She is the kind of person that will leave unwashed dishes in the sink for days. If I do not wash them, she will not. The same thing applies to our dirty clothes. In most cases, I have to spend so much time at the weekend cleaning up and as I do this, she will just sleep. If she is this messy when it is just the two of us, what will happen when we finally have children? I need advice on how to help my wife see the need to start cleaning up after herself.
Living with a messy partner can be frustrating. While differences in organisation habits and cleanliness are common among any two roommates, it seems to be a cause of dispute, particularly among couples. This is a slight incompatibility that a couple can deal with if they are willing to support one another, even when it takes some work.
Be specific about what bothers you. Not only do you need to use “I” language with a messy partner, but you also need to explain things clearly. Most messy partners cannot see the mess that they are creating. So, when you ask them to do something to fix it, they just do not have the same intuition. Click to read more…
