Good people, I need help about how to go about this ‘small’ matter. We have been traditionally married for two years. Before that, we had dated for three. So basically, I have known my wife for five years. She is naturally a good person. BUT, she is very stingy with her money. We both work so the idea is to split bills. Unfortunately, that burden I have carried. I do not know what she does with her money. Even for small things like sanitary pads that she should naturally be buying for herself, she has refused to. She keeps throwing about ‘Sente yekikazi, this and that.’ How do I get her to be more involved, financially? Lutwama
While a generous person finds giving as a pleasurable activity, a stingy person withholds and finds giving hard and uncomfortable.
They may borrow stuff from other people instead of buying their own. Stinginess is a form of fear of not having enough.
This fear motivates a person not to give away their possessions even if giving will not cause them any problems.
As a psychologist, it is difficult to escape the influence of nature and nurture. In other words, a person’s stingy behaviour can be propagated by their past childhood experiences.
A child who grew up in scarcity and constantly witnessed their family members worrying about money may develop financial insecurity. Click to read more…