By Beatrice Nakibuuka
Aaron Musoba used his sister’s wedding photo on his WhatsApp profile photo and when he was added to a WhatsApp group, he shared daily devotion. Beatrice Nambi Mwebaza placed a call because she wanted to thank the woman who tirelessly shared devotions in December 2016. Love was born.
Aaron Musoba was unable to pick but later returned the call. Beatrice Nambi Mwebaza was puzzled on hearing a man’s voice at the other end of the line. “I expected to speak to a lady. I, however, told him why I had called,” she recounts.
“I heard a playful but lovely voice at the end of the line. I called her occasionally and were only friends because I was in a relationship at the time,” Musoba chips in.
“In February 2017, I ended my previous relationship. I stopped working because I had applied for a scholarship and had to travel to Ethiopia in April.”
He took a break from relationships because he only had two months in the country. The scholarship programme was, however, postponed to October and he did not know what he would be doing until then
“I started talking to Beatrice more often but we had never met physically. While we talked, I got to know more about her, then we exchanged photos. On June 3, I visited her church and her beauty stunned me and she kept smiling, “ Aaron says.
Beatrice was natural and sang well. He kept watching her and wondered why she was single. She did everything with joy.
That afternoon, the two talked but because of different church programmes, they continued with phone conversations. In one of their conversations, Aaron promised to take her for lunch at Cafe Javas but she suggested they go to a cheaper place and use the rest of the money for something more constructive.
“I was moved because she was so considerate yet she did not know my financial status. I then committed to her and asked her if she would be my girlfriend.”
In the first place, it was an adventure and since she thought she was not going to lose anything, she gave it a try.
“I was not losing anything because I knew he was going to leave the country and I was still in school. However, after two months, I was getting stuck with him. A long distance relationship was going to be hard but I was ready.”
The long distance relationship
To Beatrice, Aaron was a risk taker and confident . Despite her attitude, he did not give up on her.
“He was worth waiting for. I got to understand he was an introvert and I had to poke him all the time. There were times when I would threaten to leave the relationship and he would overhaul the communication. We had several fights but we were able to carry on,” she says.
For Aaron, handling a long distance relationship was hard.
“I went to study and there were many assignments and deadlines to beat, yet I had to keep communication. She actually played a great role in sustaining our relationship. At some point, I would keep quiet completely,” he says.
In December 2018, the two had a big fight about communication and Aaron booked a ticket back home to see her. It was time for his final exams. “I risked missing the exams for her. This strengthened our relationship a great deal. I stayed for three weeks and used the time to pay a visit to her aunt as kukyaala [initial visit] ,”Aaron says.
Beatrice had told her mother that she was in a relationship. She wanted to find out if Aaron was serious since she was still at university. When he came for the kukyaala, Beatrice was amazed that he had set dates for their introduction and wedding.
“He is serious!” the aunt told Beatrice’s mother, but she instead became sad because she thought her daughter was too young to marry.
“My aunt told her not to stand in my way because this was a blessing from God,” Beatrice recalls.
He had to wait until after his graduation in July last year, because then he would be back to Uganda.
“I did not have the money but I engaged my friends early enough and since I was fresh from school, people generously contributed for both events,” Aaron says.
Beatrice’s mother has a farm and in preparation, they bought 100 chicks which they reared.
“At the time of the two events, we did not have to buy chicken. From the farm also, we grew a lot of matooke, so we only bought rice and beef for the introduction and wedding. My mother -in-law helped us with booking the service providers,” he adds.
Her best moment was the ride to church. She enjoyed the music played during the ride, while Aaron best moment was when he saw her enter church with her father.
The couple was disappointed by the service provider that handled the cake and decoration.
“The décor, lighting and cake were so horrible. I cried at the reception but later composed myself and enjoyed with the guests,” Beatrice says.
Adjusting to personalities
Aaron is an introvert, while Beatrice is an extrovert.
“His character puts me in shape when I stray. When he is quiet, I have to poke him until he talks and he is adjusting. I most of the time provoke him to speak,” she says.
“She looks beautiful when she is talking,” he remarks. Most times he just stares at her. Her personality is more like my mother’s. I am in a home just away from home. I try to direct the talk then let her take the lead.”
Aaron thinks it is important to keep your commitment and marry as soon as you can. “People do not have expectations when you marry at a young age. You do not have to please anyone. Also, inform people as early as possible and remember to do a one-on-one engagement for people that cannot attend meetings.”
He also adds that marriage can be challenging if you choose a wrong partner. “Since you come from different backgrounds, it is important that you find a solution for every challenge. You need to learn forgiveness, and understand your partner.”