The qualities we value in a partner often change as we grow older, if they do not then there is perhaps something to be worried about.
Romantic relationships and love have been described as universal, and both are associated with intense emotional experiences like increased energy, euphoria, obsessive thought/behaviour and feelings of dependency.
People often feel complete and whole whenever they are in love, but that feeling and your desires and requirements from love are usually different at 18, 25, 35 and 40.
We have been told that marriages that start when the parties involved are in their early 20s often end in divorce by the time the couple is in their early 30s.
That is perfectly normal as ideally both people would have grown and while many manage and grow in love an equal number of people grow apart instead. Simply because of the fact that who you were at 24 is almost non-existent and is entirely different from who you are at 36.
I know what many of you are thinking, “my grandparents met at 18 and were married 70 years” or “my parents met at University and are still together today” this could be because they are part of the demographic that grew in love or simply stayed together for an array of reasons, chief of which being how divorce was frowned upon in their time, limited options, devotion to their children/family unit and the like.
In the current times, things are extremely different, the generation we are in is more alert of the fact that love is not a stationary thing.
You do not fall in love and get stuck there (especially when it starts to affect your well-being) and was more and more millennials move into the third decade of their lives, the more this becomes apparent and we seek to explore what options we are able to grasp. Click to read more…