For a relationship to grow, there is a necessity for transition. The couple has to shift from a relationship between themselves alone by introducing other important people in their lives into their circle. First, it is friends and later parents.
Introducing your partner home for the first time can be nerve-wracking for you but also for her. Spirit F.M’s King of Radio, Wesley Silver gave some advice on how a man can make sure all goes well when they introduce their lady at home on his social media,
Please listen to this really important advice dear uncle, it will help you avoid a lot of unnecessary wars in your relationship leading to marriage.
Whenever you’re inviting her over to meet your parents for the first time, or anytime she’s coming over to the house at all, do not leave her out there alone by herself, do not leave her at the mercy of your parents, especially when you know you’ve got parents who are specialist in measuring wife materials, or a mother who is an errand Queen. Please stay by her side, follow her around. As she assists with little chores, show her where to find things, help make the errands easier for her to do and enjoyable with you.
While I’m on this topic let me say this quickly;
I know there is that temptation to leave her out there to feel at home when she comes over. That temptation to let momma check her out and test her to see if she’s got a good attitude and all that wife material stuff, which is good, to let her true colours show, right? But I’m sorry to spoil the wife material check out party for you uncle, if you ever need your mother to check out the character of the woman you want to marry for you, then you’re still a baby sir, and I’m not sorry to say this, you’re just a big baby boy.
See, how this whole bringing bae home thing is supposed to work is;
Momma is not meant to help you check out the true character and attitude of the woman you bring home to marry, no sir, that’s an approach for baby men. Mom is supposed to start learning to bond and understand the woman you bring home, this is the grown man’s approach. We need to grow up and take responsibility for the decisions we make, we need to start being men!
It hurts to hear a grown man say, “my mother will study her and see if she’ll be a good wife for me.”
Excuse me, I thought you were a man old enough to make your own decisions? I thought you are old enough to know who you are, where you’re going, and who is good enough to go with you? How come you want someone who is not going to get on the boat with you to help you check if the water is deep?
Is anyone catching this?
It is “he who finds a wife” sir, not “he whose mom decides who is a good wife for him.”
This generation needs the rise of men now more than ever. Your parents cannot help you write this kind of exams Sir, there is no special centre for this one, the studies and all the understanding is meant to be done by you, and when you have the conviction that you have found God’s best for you, take her home, and let your parents start learning to bond and understand the woman you have found.
I wish some grown men out here can catch this one.