By Sylvia Mwesigye
What you need to know?
- It is always wise to check in with your partner to find out which direction your relationship is taking, especially if you have not yet tied the knot. At least this way, you are able to make a decision based on the right information. So, what are those indicators that your relationship is not going anywhere?
Recently I was forced to confront a male relative who has been dating this lovely young woman for donkey years without any signs of settling down. “Why are you wasting the girl’s time? Why don’t you either commit or let her move on?” I demanded. His answer that she was also wasting his time was as shocking as it was eye-opening.
“Is she too young to see that we can never be?” He shot back. But judging from the effort she puts into scrubbing his jeans, polishing his shoes and preparing him gourmet meals all at the expense of her dainty hands, this girl is obviously none the wiser.
It is always wise to check in with your partner to find out which direction your relationship is taking, especially if you have not yet tied the knot. At least this way, you are able to make a decision based on the right information. So, what are those indicators that your relationship is not going anywhere?
Although some people are content to walk in circles like the Israelites wandering in the desert, this contentment can be misleading. A relationship should have a timeline; a beginning, the middle and the end. Many relationships tend to stay in that middle line, never going forward or calling it quits. Even when they notice that things are not moving forward, they start walking on eggshells instead of asking the hard questions that will provide a resolution for the relationship.
Others resort to playing inspector Derrick and patrolling each other in the dead of the night. Please, if you are not sure about the direction the relationship is taking or if you are unhappy with its progress, then it is better to confront and address the elephant in the room. However uncomfortable the talk might be, and however badly it might destabilise those tectonic plates you have been balancing for years, it is better to be sure than sorry.
There is such a thing as a law of precedence in permanent relationships. There are people out there who still believe that a fish cannot marry a bird because they would not find a suitable home in which to live. Look around. If your people do not mix well with others, then chances are you will likely not be able to settle with an outsider either, because history has that annoying way of repeating itself. Find out if it is in your favour. Click to read more..