By Sam Mubea
What you need to know:
Body count is the number of people you have sex with. It does not matter how intimate the make out was, or how much stuff you have done with someone, if there has not been penetration, it does not count as sex in this context.
What is your body count? Eunice Kisilu has been asked this question by three out of the four men she has dated and engaged in sexual intimacy with. This is a question that many women are regularly asked. “The men I have dated want to know how many other men I have had sex with. I once told a man that my body count is 10 and he never spoke to me again,” she says.
Before ‘Body count’ became a sexual phrase, the term was used in reference to the number of soldiers who had died in the war. The term has now metamorphosed into a tool that by and large is being used to shame women on the basis of their sexuality. According to sex therapist Samuel Wamiti, many men have strangely been interested in knowing what they perceive as previous sexual competition.
“This question has always been there in form of questions such as ‘How many men have you dated before?’. The difference is how it was framed and how it is now phrased,” he says. “Nowadays, it is a black and white question that tears into the very core of a woman’s privacy.” Click to read more…