By Evelyn C Kharono Lufafa
My fiancée and I have been together a while and have one child. Although we love each other, I am starting to question whether I can continue with the relationship. He hates being intimate and when we do finally have that moment, he is selfish and only cares about his satisfaction. When I complain, he insults me so badly to the point of getting physical. We recently had a fight and he called my parents telling them to come and take back their ‘‘bad mannered daughter’’. I have since been living with my parents but instead of asking for my forgiveness, he has demanded that I return home immediately or pick my things and leave for good. What should I do?
It is a painful reality but love is not always as easy to give and receive as we would like to think. Although relationships can feel like a tug of war with one of us struggling to pull closer while the other resists, engaging in the blame game is never the solution. Too often, we build a case against the people we are involved with. We use their flaws against them, cataloging their shortcomings in our minds until admiration slowly turns into distrust. When this transformation occurs, we become highly attuned to our partners’ less desirable traits. Click to read more…