By Sylvia Mwesigye
There was a time when it was generally believed that after the 25th anniversary, a marriage would be smooth sailing. Things have since changed. Recently, a friend came to me looking shell-shocked by the news of the demise of her parents’ marriage. To her, their marriage was rock solid and would weather any storm.
Unfortunately, there came a storm in form of a sprightly widow in her late 50s that it could not withstand.
The experience made her feel insecure about her own 25-year long marriage. If people who had been together for more than 50 years could give up, what chance did she stand? The thing is, sometimes people are hanging in there just by the skin of their teeth and they reach a point when any kind of resolution is better than trying to keep it together.
These are some of the things that fester and eventually break down even the strongest of unions.
Unresolved conflicts are like making a string of beads. You start by putting one by one and eventually you have a string around your neck. In this case, each bead is an unresolved conflict; there comes a time when there is no more space and the best thing to do is let it break and start afresh. There are many reasons people limp on in relationships.
For some, it is the hope that things will get better and for others, it is for the sake of the children. But as we know, even hope comes to an end and children grow up and leave. Without these reasons to hold the relationship to