By Christine Nakalungi
With time I have realised that maybe clerics should let people write their own vows because surely this business of echoing what the pastor, priest, reverend, bishop or imam says is turning many into liars.
I know that at the moment of exchanging the vows, the couple is so excited that they can vow to do anything for each other. Reality however, kicks in when the wedding excitement finally expires. Marriage will not always be a honeymoon that is why you should enjoy it when you can.
When you get married, the world does not come to a standstill. No my dear. Once you get back from cloud nine, you will realise that the person you married is human. The ring will not change anything.
If he was a bully before he is likely going to stay the same. So, the question of ‘to have and to hold’ is not mainly being able to be there for your spouse if they are going through something but what if your prince charming is the one taking you through a journey of pain and regret, are you willing to still hold his hand even amidst tears and heartbreaks?
Our ancestors did this so easily for reasons we might never really understand. I attended a funeral where a woman lost her husband to Covid-19.
She looked stronger than the other relatives who were trying to console her. I was amazed at how composed she was and when she got the microphone to speak, I even admired her more.
He, asked to see the children, but he looked horrible. I did not want the children to see him in that state. I want them to remember him as a happy man.
He on the other hand asked for my forgiveness. And he asked me to call a certain lady who his mistress and had two children was including the little baby crawling over there. Ma’am, can you bring the children to lay a wreath and say their goodbye.”
A lady looked surprised as all eyes turned to her. She might have begged for the wind to carry her out of that place. She resisted at first but after a minute she rose and walked which seemed like a walk of shame for some people.
Mourners started whispering. Click to read more…