Ann Whitehead, a tweep and head of Whitehead Communications turned to her Twitter account to express her desire for a small, simple, and inexpensive wedding. She tweeted,
I’m SO looking forward to NEVER having a big wedding!😍For real, I’d LOVE to never organise or spend money on a wedding at all!🤩
Yeah, I’m happy for other people who enjoy these things, but me, it’d rather spend on a farm house & kids.🏡God please let my partner understand!😂🙏
— Anne Whitehead (@whiteheadcomm) June 5, 2022
In the thread people engaged with her about the sentiment. Arthur Musinguzi asked her to break down how she would do that.
Pretty simple, just not have a wedding. Maybe visit the court house to sign the papers if I want to legalise the marriage and host a very small party for my closest friends/fam at home after. Low key, stress free, cheap and full of private joy.
— Anne Whitehead (@whiteheadcomm) June 6, 2022
“How about if the partner wants to throw you that big wedding?” Emmanuel Sempa asked.
To this, she replied, “I would decline because the event would stress me and I wouldn’t enjoy it. I would offer my surely reasonable partner multiple counter proposals for where else our resources could be invested to nurture our lives and marriage long term.”
To bring out the point about how hard it is for a bride or groom to go for a small wedding, Caroline Ariba commented that although she didn’t want a graduation party, her mother said not having one would be like punishing her.
To this, Whitehead replies that “Indeed, these big weddings are often more for family that the couple. I am privileged in this way that my parents had a rebelliously small and cheap wedding and would be totally fine with me doing the same.”
Phillo Mavad, who goes by Acholi on Twitter then asked, “Is it because you don’t want something big, or is it because you would rather do something else with the money? Some weddings can be small but super expensive!”
Whitehead replied that she neither wants expense or the stress, “I could go for something small and cheap maybe – just a gathering of close friends/fam for a simple party in the backyard, like my parents did.”
Mwanyi says that she suffers from anxiety and would prefer a small wedding but it is a hard bargain with her family, “Partner is okay with small ceremony or even just hitting up the registrar. Family, not so easy. I’ve been campaigning since my late teens when I was my mum’s wedding handbag. Compromise has been big kwanjula and small white wedding.”
A user going by the name, Son of An African says, “Big weddings just to show off to people that won’t even check on you as you deal with the debts and loans. Just a small reasonable after-party and church service for those that wanna do it in church is enough!”
Nelson Kukundakwe who had a small wedding says it worked out fine for them,
This is exactly what I did. I could actually afford funding 100% of our wedding but we chose not to. Only us, our families and a very few friends were involved. We are happy!
— Nelson Kukundakwe (@KukwaNelson) June 6, 2022