Many times, while in the courtship stages of a relationship we forget to ask questions vital to how we will run and operate going forward. It is very easy to get caught up in the honeymoon stages of dating and getting to know someone and breeze right over what could potentially be deal breakers.
Dating can be a wonderful feeling when you are thinking of fun things to do as well as the excitement that comes with getting to know someone new and sharing parts of your character and getting to know theirs in order to form a bond and build something long lasting.
However, as you do all the exciting things that come with courtship, it is important to always have it at the back of your mind that you need to have those uncomfortable conversations to find out from this potential partner what things about them would irk you, what aspects about their lifestyle would be intolerable for you.
There are a few questions at the top of the list for me, I always make it a point to ask (and you guys can use this now) “Is there anybody in your life that would take offense to us getting to know each other?” This saves any unnecessary entanglement this person might possibly involve you in.
Often, when people are single, they date around and sometimes they do not realise just how intense one connection might be and that by getting to know someone else, they could be breaking the heart of another. This is the same in the case that someone has a friend with benefits who may have caught feelings and is not ready for the other to date someone else exclusively and of course for exes that may have not had any closure from the relationship and are still hanging on.
What this particular question does for you is prompt the other person to be open and transparent with you on what dealings they had recently (or are currently) having with other people that are not closed off yet. Click to read more…