Before you meet the perfect partner, there are always many things that happen. Sometimes you get in and out of many relationships because you are trying to find the perfect one. Dorothy Katwesige and Ivan Kajjimu met exactly at the opportune time when they were both looking for partners to settle down after toxic relationships.
According to Dorothy, meeting Ivan was quite interesting because they had gone for work upcountry. They were both contractors on the Hoima -Buliisa Wanseko Road project. Ivan was an intern surveyor and Dorothy was an assistant sociologist.
“We interacted on so many occasions in relation to work, and the more time we spent together we became fonder of each other,” says Dorothy.
Ivan says they spent a lot of time talking about life including sharing about their past relationships. What was outstanding was that they were both coming from broken relationships and through sharing advice they became much closer than before.
At this moment, Dorothy shares that it was a good feeling to have someone who would constantly listen to her problems and say the exact words that she wanted to hear. She says this was so comforting and that was when she realised she needed him in her life.
Ivan liked her ‘rolling’ eyes. He shares that Dorothy has a unique character, a good sense of humour and a very good command of the English language that has glued him to her until now. They have been together for 10 years, married for eight and have three children now. (Kayla, Kenan and Kiana).
Dorothy says their courtship was a simple one since they were both young when they met and all they wanted was to see each other.
“I was still living with my parents so I could only leave home, go out and have lunch or have evening walks and I would return home,” she says.
Ivan adds that as much as they wanted to live together they both came from very religious families that never believed in co-habiting.
“We did not have the money or luxury to go to those expensive hotels but the long phone chats would make our day. Until we officially got married,” he says.
Proposal and wedding
“We decided to celebrate his birthday away from town and chose to go to Kalangala just the two for us. We also wanted to be alone and talk about our relationship and what future plans we had,” Dorothy says.
“So while I was seated on the balcony of our hotel room, he asked how I felt about spending the rest of my life as his partner. Before I responded, he pulled out the ring and asked me to marry him. For me it was an absolute yes,” he says.
Around the time they were preparing for the wedding, Dorothy says, they did not have enough money but they had decided to wed. She remembers as they were organising the introduction ceremony, they did not want to have meetings so they decided to buy items in bits until everything was complete. Click to read more…